Greetings, dear readers, and welcome to the very first installment of this week’s commenter-wide sex forum! As I previously mentioned, I’ll be here all week leading discussions related to sex and age. Let’s get started, shall we?
I’ll start the week off with something simple and see how it grows from there:
Do you think we become more sexually open with age?
Personal anecdote time! I know for me, I feel like my age makes sexual exploration a lot more difficult. I don’t want to pigeon-hole all 21-year-olds, but I get the vibe that people my age (especially college students, if I’m speaking from experience) don’t explore what turns them on sexually. I tried to have a frank discussion on different kinks with a group of friends once and the shudders were almost audible. I think we’ve been battered by Cosmo-esque sex advice our whole lives that tells us reverse-cowgirl is as uninhibited and wild as it should get that anything beyond that is “weird.” It’s kind of sad, to me, the attitude I see displayed by women my age; no one wants to be seen as weird or freaky so they put down any form of sex that isn’t vanilla. (Not saying there’s anything wrong with vanilla sex. It’s my main form of travel.) As constrained as I feel a lot of people my age are, it’s an improvement considering the attitudes I noticed in high school. As much as I loved making out, I remember keeping it on the down low in high school because any girl that enthusiastically talked about anything vaguely sexual was totally ostracized. Matter of fact, I was made fun of for my apparent enjoyment of steamy make-out sessions. Yeesh.
So maybe you do become more sexually open with age. I can’t speak from experience too much because I think there’s an obvious leap in sexual openness from high school to college, but what do Ye Older and Wiser Persephonies have to say? I look forward to hearing from you!
(Remember, this conversation can go anywhere you want it to, so feel free to explore the topic. If you have any particular area regarding age and sex you’d like to discuss more in depth, let me know in the comments and we’ll dedicate a whole day to it sometime this week! I like to think of this as a communal process.)