International No Diet Day was yesterday, and it’s a sacred holiday to folks like me. So in honor of this holiday, I’m giving away my book for free and sharing my favorite dieting breakup tips with you.
Stopping dieting is a lot like breaking up with an actual person. When you’ve dieted, your dreams of how your life will look are a lot like your dreams of what your life will look like with a particular person in it. For example, if you’re dating someone, you might be dreaming of going on a vacation with them. Similarly, if you’re dieting, your vacation dreams may involve imagining yourself at your goal weight.
Whether you’re breaking up with a person or diet, you have to acknowledge the fact that some of your dreams may not come true and you have to make room for new ones. I hope these five steps will help you in that process.
Step 1: It’s Not You, It’s Your Diet
The old “It’s not you, it’s me” breakup line does not apply when it comes to you in your diet. If you lost weight with this diet only to gain it back or to plateau endlessly, you didn’t fail at your diet – your diet failed you. About 95% of dieters gain back all of the weight they lost (often, plus more) within 3 to 5 years. So obviously, diets are total crap and they don’t deserve you.
Plus, diets never treated you right anyway, which brings me to my next point.
Step 2: Remember The Bad Times
Just like with any breakup, it’s important to remember the bad times and not dwell on the good. If you keep remembering a particular day, perhaps early on in your diet, when you were feeling super attractive and someone commented on how skinny you looked and it made you feel good, you may find yourself back in a Weight Watchers meeting before you know it.
But I challenge you to instead remember all the reasons why you broke up with your diet. And I have a feeling that you’ll have more reasons to break up than to stay together. Remember that day you weighed yourself after being so careful about sticking to your diet all week and your weight went up and you felt like crap about yourself for days. Remember all the guilt and stress you felt any time you had to decide what to eat when you weren’t sure how the food fit into your diet. Remember that diets aren’t actually good for you at all.
When you remember to focus on how stressful and difficult your relationship with your diet was, it’ll be easier to not get back together. But I will say this…
Step 3: You May Temporarily Get Back Together With Your Diet
Look, it happens. Change is hard. You may lose resolve and go back to that Weight Watchers meeting once or twice. You may stress out that you ate something fatty and the guilt washes over you. It happens.
When it happens, it’s important to revert to step two, and remember the bad times. Sometimes, I think this moment or two of getting back together with your diet is almost necessary to the process – usually you start to remember right away all the things you hated about being on a diet. So if you get caught in this step, do not worry. Just revert to step two and your breakup will be official again in no time.
Step 4: There are Other (Delicious) Fish in the Sea
Exploring the other fish in the sea can be a little scary in the beginning. It can be nerve-wracking to go from a dieting paradigm, with all of its rules and structure, to a non-dieting paradigm where the only rules are dictated by you.
To me, this is the perfect time to start exploring Health at Every Size, particularly the intuitive eating aspects of it. With Health at Every Size principles, you learn to connect with your body’s own signals in terms of hunger and fullness and get to explore what foods are really best for your body and your needs. Explaining how this works is really beyond the scope of this post, but if you want to learn more about it and how to incorporate it into your life in an in-depth way, you should definitely check out The Big Beautiful Goddess Academy.
Step 5: One Day You’ll Barely Remember It’s Name
It’s been five years since my last diet, and I have to say, it does get better. All the stress and guilt I used to experience around food and my body are truly gone. Now I eat from a completely different place – one in which my focus is on nourishment and what my body needs and desires, not rules that somebody made up because it led to some temporary weight loss and sold a few books.
It is a much happier place; I’m so glad I made that choice to break up with dieting forever.
Golda is a certified holistic health counselor and founder of Body Love Wellness, a program designed for plus-sized women who are fed up with dieting and want support to stop obsessing about food and weight. She is now enrolling for The Big Beautiful Goddess Academy. Click here for details!Related
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