The unthinkable happened this week on Girls… I felt a pang of affection for Adam. Help! How do I make it go away!
This episode reminded me a bit of an O/S fanfic I wrote a week or so ago. It was deliberately rather mean-spirited and directed at a character I dislike and had nothing at all to do with this particular show, but what it had in common was a moment when someone returns to a place she left behind and finds that everything has changed, that life has moved on without her. Hannah, in this instance, returns to her home in Lansing, Michigan to celebrate with her parents their 30th wedding anniversary. What she finds is that even though she’s now “from New York and automatically more interesting,” she still ends up listening to her parents tell her to stop texting during a movie and standing in front of the fridge after midnight binge-eating. The more things change…
The B-plot for this episode was a strange story about an old high school friend, Carrie, who is either missing or dead (never specified) and the benefit being held for her – or her parents, depending on who you ask. Hannah seems to be mildly concerned about Carrie, but she’s more upset with the cheesy, sexually-tinged dance Heather (the other HS friend) performs at the benefit and the fact that Heather intends to run off to LA to be a dancer without a support system in place. There’s more than a little bit of wisdom behind the superior-than-thou “She’s gonna go to L.A., and, like, live in some shitty apartment, and feel, like, scared and sad and lonely and weird all the time” description she offers up as sympathy/amazement/something.
I said on Twitter while watching this episode that I connected more with Hannah’s parents than Hannah; unfortunately for me, I said that right before a frisky bout of anniversary shower sex led to Dad (Peter Scolari) falling and putting his back out. For the record, that’s totally not what I meant – in my world, shower sex has never led to any injuries…at least not yet. But I love Hannah’s ma and pa and I want to see more of them, especially Mom (Becky Ann Baker), who proves that 59 is still hot and sexy.
Which brings me to Adam, who is obviously still running Hannah’s love/sex life, even if she refers to him as an “ex” and even if she can at least speak with clarity about their dysfunctional relationship (and I use the word relationship very elastically). You know what I want for Hannah? I want her to discover and act on what SHE wants out of sex and relationships instead of donning the mantle of what her partner wants. The sex with Eric the Pharmacist is a perfect example. When the intimacy begins she immediately goes into hyper-aggressive sexual vamp mode, sticking her finger in his ass and asking him if she feels “tight as a baby” – all tricks she’s learned from/with Adam. She doesn’t take the time to feel her way with Eric and there’s no indication she’s getting any pleasure out of all that aggression, either. In fact, I’m not sure if she’s had fun in any sexual encounter she’s had so far in the whole series. It makes me wonder about the bisexual relationship she alluded to in a conversation with Marnie. I wonder if she’s trying so hard to please the men in her life because sex with men isn’t really who she is.
But in the end it doesn’t matter, because Adam finally notices all the times she’s called and hung up and calls her back and despite the “he treats my heart like monkey meat“ acknowledgement, that’s all it takes to put her right back under his spell. He is New York and New York is home and she’s a fish out of water in Lansing now. It was a sweet moment, actually, and watching it made me wonder if Adam actually did have a soft spot for her.
God help me, Adam is growing on me. This cannot happen.
So, what are your thoughts? Did Hannah’s experiences going home ring true to you? Is there a soft, sentimental side to Adam?