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We were doing fake family awards in the car and my grandmother tried to give my mom the award for “best female activist for female activists who are actively female.”
And, hooray! P-mag’s back! It’s going to be hard to resist while I finish studying for my English and Science finals tomorrow.
That is the most awesome award ever. Your gradma sounds really cool.
On the weekly lonely train ride. Intermediate distance relationships are assy. You get used to living with a dude for a few years, then after a few years of less then stellar employment he ups and gets a much better job in a city a couple of hours away. Then you spend the next year and a half (and counting) shuttling back and forth every other week and kicking yourself for getting a degree that you probably will never use and is not training you for the job you want to do (but buys you time to learn the other skills on your own, and plus pays you well cause you got a scholarship which was an offer you couldn’t refuse). Grump grump grump.
On the upside, we went to the market this weekend and got scapes, coriander, and new potatoes, and you guys, lightly boiled potatoes then pan friend with butter, coriander, scapes, and onion is AMAZING. Dirt simple but sooooooooo tasty.
My living situation is breaking down as I type.
None of this is our fault, but the BIL is blaming us for everything.
ruh-roh. Spill it if you need to.
I don’t even know what to say right now.
There’s been screaming in the kitchen for the last half-hour. At least. I ended up storming out. I can’t believe this is becoming such a Huge Deal. I can’t believe the BIL is blow-out mad over teeny tiny things, things that weren’t even communicated AT ALL about until a few days ago when he fucking flipped on me over nothing.
I don’t know what’s going to come of this, but I don’t think it will be anything good.
Oh yuck. Is the BIL at all amenable to breaking for an emotional calm down and regrouping when actual move forward type action plans can be devised? This sometimes works with my family when shit hits the fan, particularly with my Dad who has a tendency to stew on problems, then explode.
I typically come with something like, “I think we are both too upset to get anything accomplished right now, can we talk again in (x amount of time) when we’ve had a chance to calm down? Then we can decide what we need to do going forward to make this right. I don’t think we are getting anywhere with this right now.” It doesn’t always work, but sometimes you can kill the argument’s momentum and rein it back from crazy yelling land.
I don’t even fucking know. We’ve tried all sorts of things, he just decided to pick on like…five things he suddenly had a huge-ass problem about. I think the issue is, he didn’t blow up at me because he was mad at ME, exactly. He was frustrated with EVERYTHING ELSE, and he decided to direct that at the BF and I. But mainly me.
I don’t even want to talk to him anymore. He’s just made up his mind that I’m some sort of immature child (for reasons that AREN’T EVEN TRUE, and I told him that, but he still keeps trying to argue it), he’s decided the BF and I don’t help out around the house…he’s just decided all this SHIT, because he wants to be angry at something. He wants to blame someone else for all his problems. He’s unwilling to communicate, his idea of “finding a compromise” is us acquiescing to all of his (almost all unreasonable) demands, and overall he’s just being a complete and total ponce from Ponce-ville, population Twatwaffle.
It feels like dealing with my mom all over again, because I know that there was NOTHING I could do to avoid the conflict, and even when he knew he was wrong, he steadfastly refused to admit it, refused to apologize for treating me like shit, refused to do anything to make the situation any better.
What makes the situation even worse is that if anyone leaves this house first, it’s going to be us. They aren’t going to get kicked out because they have five kids, and they KNOW that. It’s like he’s unwilling to work with us, to give us the benefit of the doubt, thinks we’re lazy and that we don’t do anything…and he’s just going to keep trying to control the situation to make us leave.
Fucking hell we WISH we could afford to leave. But we can’t. Not yet. Because we can’t. find. jobs.
Oh man. That is massively shitty. I’m sorry. My Dad was like that for a while before he got his pain medication sorted and he was hurting and angry all the time. It took me packing a suitcase while sobbing and screaming to make him back off (and looking back on it, I put nothing useful in there, it was all books and other things that made me happy plus maybe some undies), and even then my mom had to come home in the middle of it and a) talk me down and b) shame the shit out of my father for making me feel unwelcome in my own home. It took a while for me to forgive him for that, and he was actually sorry. I can only hope the BIL realizes that he is full of shit, and that whatever problems he has with you are not his real problems.
Thanks, I really appreciate it. I’m sorry you’ve also had to go through shitty family shit. Family can really blow sometimes. :(
hang in there, kiddo. we’re pulling for you.
Thanks, I appreciate it.
But -but where did the This Is What You have Been Saying gone too? Are we still in the outer edges of the new-server-maelstrom?
It should be coming back, I’m trying to narrow down what’s making our girl run so slow, so I’ll be turning stuff off and on for the next couple of days.
Looking at the ad-hiccups, I could imagine so. But I just have this terrible disease of typing before I speak, I’m sorry. Have a Tennant.
We’re already back? Hurray! Hurray!
As you know, I’m asking for a friend:
What if I.. er, one, were to get into bed, realize they were without their phone… then wander back through the apt and get not only their phone, but a piece or two of turkey from the fridge…
Uhm, I mean, what would happen if someone left their phone in the fridge over night?
(It didn’t happen to my, uhm, friend…. but it really, really almost did. Turkey… she loves turkey. More than her phone.)
I think phone would be all right, maybe take it apart to let the possible condense dry out, clean it off and try it again? Depends on the phone of course. My sturdy Nokia would definitely survive ..any smart phone? I’m not so sure.
If water does condense inside the phone (or any other small magical device like an iPod), stick that sucker in a bag of uncooked rice overnight. The rice draws out the moisture and deconstruction isn’t necessary.
The cold would run the battery down pretty quick, but I don’t think it would do any more damage than it would if you left your phone in the car overnight when it’s cold out. (Disclaimer: I am by no means an expert on anything electronic. But I am forgetful and leave my phone weird places.)
I second @drsong: I’d be more worried about the possible condensation than the cold. If your friend has already taken her phone out, don’t try to turn it on; stick it in a bag of rice and leave it in a warm place for 24-48 hours. I have rescued several phones from toilet drowning this way.
We’re back, baby!
Celebratory dances all around!
Are we back? Is that what this means? Does it mean we can cuddle? I need to cuddle. Cuddle or dink whiskey together… your choice really; it’s all the same to me.
One internet cuddle with a side of whiskey for philososaurus, coming right up!
Also, yay for what appears to be a successful server move!
This gif is everything I feel inside.
How are you<3?
Ha! I love that gif, and it’s useful in all sorts of situations.
I, amusingly, could use a cuddle (don’t care so much for whiskey) tonight. Hope you’re feeling better!
Can we do both? Cause I could use a good drink and a nice cuddle.
This whole time when I was sippin’ on my whiskey, I was brain-cuddling you, which is like, the best cuddling I have.
I wish I had a gif that involved drinking and cuddling….
As I didn’t have breakfast yet I’ll skip the whisky, but I’m all for brain cuddles.
Drinking and cuddling are two of my favorite activities! Even better if it’s both at the same time.
Hooray for being back! I will celebrate by eating lots of buffalo chicken dip. It’s in the oven now and it smells so so so good. Om nomnomnom…
Girrrrrrrrl, throw me that recipe!!!
Cook about a pound of chicken breasts (I boil ‘em) and set aside until cool enough to handle. Shred and add hot sauce to taste. I I use about 1/2 cup or so. Chop 1/2 an onion and a few celery stalks and sautee. when those are done, toss into a bowl with chicken, add a block of cream cheese, about a cup or so of blue cheese dressing (or ranch if that’s your thing), and 2/3 package of shredded cheese of your choice (I used sharp cheddar blend). I threw in some dry bleu cheese this time, just for funsies, and it was delish). Mix well. Put in a casserole dish, top with the remaining shredded cheese, and toss in the oven. Bake at 350F until all bubbly and gooey.
This has become my go-to for just about any occasion. I serve it with French bread or chips.
Mmmm… I enjoy both cuddles AND whiskey. That may become a new requirement of new relationships. This is why I love P’seph- so many good ideas.
So hm everything seems to be in place, could it be that the server move has gone UNEXPECTEDLY WELL? Crossing my fingers in case pointing it out jinxes the whole endeavor. You can tar and feather me with Nutella if it does.
I’m not sure how slathering yourself in Nutella could be bad, but I’m definitely up to testing it out if you’ve jinxed us. :P
Apropos of the last OT’s Eddie Izzard-fest, I’m watching a QI with him now, and damn is that man devilishly attractive.
Oh, and tonight I went to see Avengers again. Still awesome.
Okay, the new server is ready for us. I’m prepping the files on our server to start moving them over, then changing the nameservers. We’ll be up over here until all bajillion files are uploaded to the new place, so you’ve got a few hours for chatting.
Don’t quote me yet, but this is going better than I expected. We might be back by tonight.
I’m downloading all the images from the posts and comments right now.
Bitches love images.
Damn straight.
I’m probably not helping…
Oh my…..
Joe Dempsie put a lot of work into his role. The least we can do is appreciate it.
Good thing I don’t mind appreciating hard work when I see it…
what role is that? I think I need to watch it…
Gendry in Game of Thrones. He was apparently stung by book fan commentary saying he was too short for the part, so he decided to say “fuck off” with his muscles.
Testing on my smartphone 1 2 3.
I’ll be missing you all.
I think we’re back!
No P-Mag for a whole weekend? At first I was like:
But then:
Yay!! New severs! I hope everything goes as smooth as Alan Rickman’s voice.
New…. serverus?
(I’ll get my coat)
Love it.
(rimshot)
At first I was like
but then I was like
(the two part At First/But Then meme is my favourite of all memes)
dumb jokes I just saw on FB and LOVE round the first! [does anybody know how I can make it big?
you click ‘insert into editor’ beside the file once it’s uploaded.
ok that was awesome
Guyyyyyyyssssss let’s keep up on tumblr for the weekend because I just started using tumblr and I want more friends.
ramblingandpie.tumblr.com
‘sup
Followed you! (thenicolettebeach.tumblr.com)
Tumblr claims it can’t find you.
Balls.
I’m terrible at remembering things, it’s actually thenicoletteb.tumblr.com.
Ha! This changes things.
followed!
[asthecatflies.tumblr.com]
pie? I like pie. I will have to eat some tomorrow.
Followed you.
followed~!
followed!
http://mendaily.tumblr.com I’ll be there!
You have another follower :)
And you as well. All the follows!
This is me! http://pileofmonkeys.tumblr.com/
This is also me! http://unfuckyourhabitat.tumblr.com/
followed:)
http://opifexumbratili.tumblr.com is me!
Me! Me!
http://philososaurus.tumblr.com/
followed you!
me please, it’s brand-new!
rainbowspite . tumblr . com
Get to posting, gurl!
Yaaay new server! Nooo, no P-Mag for the weekend!
I’ll just have to placate myself with this picture.
Yes, I apparently have the sense of humor of a middle schooler.
I expected something Tennant.
Did someone say… Tennant?
BABY TENNANT!
oh my god he’s so YOUNG!
Hello, pretty!
young and ginger!
Tennant works, too!
I’ll be sacrificing something horrifying in the hopes that this all goes well.
May the server gods be kind and merciful to us.
Trying this again…