Lunchtime Poll: Date Ideas

My partner and I have been together for about 5 1/2 years and we’re getting to the point of boredom. Not necessarily boredom with each other, but rather failing to be creative with our time spent together.

As I’m sure most of you know, when you’re leading a busy life between work, school and other very important obligations like religiously watching your favorite TV show every week, relationships can get to a point of routine. You spend time with each other when you’re wiped out from the day, and at that point, you’re only hanging out either in front of the TV, or while reading in bed/looking at social media on your phone. Not that any of those things are not fun to do together, but when it becomes the only activity you do together, it can get a little redundant.

Therefore, we’re trying to become more creative about the time we spend together, especially because a version of what we both think is fun, looks drastically different. I like museums, he likes watching sports at a bar — do you see where I’m going with this? So what ideas do all of you have for a fun date for a couple that is trying to spice things up? And by “spicing things up,” I don’t mean in the BDSM kind of way, but I’m also not ruling that out, either.

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5 thoughts on “Lunchtime Poll: Date Ideas”

  1. I don’t know if you are looking for different things to do on every date, but what we do is weekly dance class (Argentine Tango to be specific). He comes to meet me downtown and we make as big or small a fuss over dinner as our feelings/wallet allow and go dance for an hour. We have been doing this for almost two years now and it definitely is still challenging and fun.

    We were both rank beginners when we started (i.e hadn’t had any formal dance training at all) and it has been a lot of fun progressing to some if the fancier stuff. We have also been considering adding some West Coast Swing to our repertoire. If you do go this route I highly recommend the more improvisational dances, so much fun. (plus, in our case, completely an excuse to save up for a vacation in Argentina)

  2. I’m a big fan of random lectures, and I am lucky enough to have found someone else who is, too. Granted, that’s recent, but it’s nice to meet someone who’s up for doing something I might have done anyway. More fun with two. Local bookstore author readings, guided hikes or walking tours, anything that seems interesting. At least in our towns, there are a few good places to just look at what’s happening in the next few days, and then we just pick something that sounds interesting (and is usually free).

  3. We do indoor picnics! I wrote a post about them a little while ago, too. :)

    For Hogswatch (and occasions to follow) I created a romantic evening indoor picnic. There were tealights (LED ones!), picnic blanket, bottle of bubbly, lots of cushions, and scrummy nibbles. There were also other more special bits and pieces.

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