And now for all the non-Hobby Lobby misogyny news for those of us who are completely sick of hearing about how awful it all is. Not that these stories aren’t awful too! Heaven forbid. (As usual, trigger warnings for pretty much everything apply.)
Almost all of the 68 women and girls kidnapped from a village by Boko Haram last month have escaped their captors, though sadly there’s still nothing to report about the 200+ girls who were abducted in April.
Missouri Gov. Jay Nixon finally vetoed the bill that would have imposed a 72-hour wait period on abortions, saying that it was “insulting to women.”
Nevada Lieutenant Governor candidate Lucy Flores talked openly about having an abortion at 16 because she didn’t want to be a teen mom like her sisters, which is pretty much the first time an American politician has talked about aborting for a non-medical reason. (I refuse to phrase it as her “admitting” to an abortion because that implies that it’s shameful.)
The first arrest has been made under the Tennessee law that criminalizes pregnant women using certain illegal drugs… except the woman in question had used amphetamines, which aren’t covered in the law (and there was no evidence that her newborn was harmed by the exposure).
A 16-year-old Texas girl is speaking out after her rape spawned a Twitter hashtag where people are posting pictures of themselves sprawled to look like a picture that was taken of her after she believes she was drugged. She only realized she’d been assaulted when her friends saw the posts on social media and asked if she was ok.
Terrible People of the Week
- The Idaho Veteran’s Cemetary, which told a 74-year-old veteran that she won’t be able to have her ashes placed next to her deceased wife since they aren’t really married under state law. She’s suing them.
- Todd Akin, who wins a spot on our list for the second week in a row for rescinding his apology for calling some rapes “legitimate” and doubling down on the completely misinterpreted “science” that makes him think that the stress of really getting raped will prevent women from getting pregnant.
- Judge Michael Mettyear of East Yorkshire, U.K., for telling a convicted rapist who he was sentencing to five years in jail that he understood that the young man “simply could not resist” having “sex” with a woman who came to his house while blackout drunk, and that he didn’t consider him to be “a classic rapist… who goes searching for a woman to rape.”
- The Guadalupe County Jail in Texas, which is denying a pregnant inmate the methadone she needs to prevent a stillbirth.
- The Daily Mail, for making up a weird Islamophobic story that Amal Alamuddin’s mother was opposed to her daughter’s impeding marriage to George Clooney and that members of the Druze religion (to which her family doesn’t even belong) might kill Alamuddin if she doesn’t call off the wedding.
- Whoever decided it was a good idea to merge The Mary Sue with Geekosystem. Because if a lady site is doing well and a dude site is sucking, the obvious solution is to water down your content, invite the dudes into the lady space, and alienate your loyal readers.
- Everyone who called one of the Tour de France podium women a bitch because she didn’t let cyclist Vincenzo Nibali kiss her.
- People.com, for running this poll on their homepage last week (it’s since been taken down). Because clearly those are the only options and everyone should vote to express their opinion of her personal decision. And because they’d never ask the same thing about a childfree man.
Zooey Deschanel is also fed up with the tabloid obsession with female celebrities and pregnancy:
Like every woman is dying to give birth! I don’t think so. Nobody asks guys that. And you go into a supermarket and every tabloid is like, ‘Pregnant and Alone!’ Stuck in the 1950s ideal of how a woman should live her life. This brings out the fiery feminist in me.
High five to Nicki Minaj for clarifying that her praise of women songwriters was just that—praise. Not a dig at Iggy Azalea, which is what everyone wanted to make it out to be.
People who think women rely on men to support them are more likely to condemn promiscuity. After all, if you don’t know who your baby’s father is, how will you get him to support you? Ugh.
A study of children in Australia found that those raised by same-sex couples fared better than average in health and family cohesion. Kids who were bullied or felt stigmatized by others scored worse in mental health, but that’s not their families’ fault (which is the same thing that a study found last year).
- “White male” shouldn’t be a default setting and women and other racial groups and ethnicities shouldn’t always be the “other.” For example, Landon Donovan isn’t the “all-time U.S. leading goal scorer;” plenty of U.S. players are totally kicking his ass in the international statistics, but their accomplishments apparently don’t count since they’re women.
- Other aspects of soccer are sexist as well—Helena Costa was hired to coach a French men’s soccer team just two months ago, but resigned when she realized that management had been hiring players and making other decisions without her input. It’s also annoying that a ton of media coverage made it seem like women were only watching the World Cup because of the sexy players, not because they actually enjoy and understand the game.
- PepsiCo CEO Indra K. Nooyi made waves for saying that women can’t have it all. For a lot of women, she’s right.
- One teen’s college entrance essay led to her stepfather being convicted of raping her when she was a child.
- In the wake of the decision that struck down the 35-foot buffer zone at Massachusetts abortion clinics, one of the nation’s most outspoken clinic protestors admits that screaming at women hardly ever gets them to change their mind about getting an abortion. It just makes them feel shitty.
- On the TRAP laws that are adding unnecessary regulations to abortion clinics instead of targeting abortion specifically.
- Bryn Donovan (who has written for us on occasion) talks about using a male pseudonym to get her poetry published.
- Gay white men need to stop appropriating black female culture.
- 10 ways men can combat sexist entitlement in public.
- Nico Lang apologizes for having marginalized Melissa McCarthy while trying to defend her from the haters and makes an excellent point about allies who try so hard that they make things worse.
- Related, a call for white women to actually act like allies instead of just talking about it while ignoring racism and homophobia.
- Jessica Valenti on anti-feminist women.
- The parallels between cycling and being a woman.
- The problem with “feminist” t-shirts that commercialize people’s words without giving them credit.
- Would critics still be fawning over Karl Ove Knausgaard’s My Struggle if it were written by a woman?
- How to Breastfeed Appropriately. (“Science has proven that breasts are basically large vaginas. […] Just because your breast-ginas are full of milk, doesn’t mean you get to wave them around.”)
- Gawd, fanboys who want equal representation for men are just so tiresome.
- A very funny take on “Beyoncé voters.”