The Internalized Misogyny of Anti-Valentine’s Rants

I know, Valentine’s Day was yesterday. But every Valentine’s Day, I am internet-greeted by untold amounts of internalized misogyny under the guise of feminism or anti-capitalism or Radical Movement X, and yesterday was no exception. Every year, I roll my eyes and click past the judgmental essay or blurb or Facebook post and file it away in my mental complaint folder. Continue reading

The Sneaky Misogyny and Homophobia of #cutforbieber


For every awesome thing the Internet does, you can almost guarantee that ten truly horrific things will pop up to cancel your renewed faith in humanity. As much as the online world can be a haven for some, it can be a hell for others, as we’ve seen in numerous accounts of cyberbullying and the like. Currently, the #cutforbieber drama has my full attention, and not just because of my fascination with Internet culture or my interest in mental health. It’s because #cutforbieber speaks to me as a lesson in misogyny, homophobia, and the Internet. Continue reading

The Breastfeeding Wars, Part One Billion

This week has been nothing if not a breast milk-covered battleground in the oh-so-hyped “Mommy Wars.” Every few months, an article or twenty come along to announce to women that no matter how they choose to parent, they’re doing it wrong. Sometimes it’s about co-sleeping or babywearing or daycare, but the breastfeeding debacle has held its place firmly in the Mothering Thunderdome for years. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t, and really damned if you try to defend your choice. Continue reading

The Duchess of Cambridge and the Language of a Royal Pregnancy

Unless you’ve been living under a rock or in an internetless hole, you’ve undoubtedly heard that Catherine, The Duchess of Cambridge, (formerly known as Kate Middleton) is pregnant. First of all, congratulations to the Duchess and her family. She looks happy, and even if she wasn’t, we’d never really know. While I’m happy for her, I am pissed at the Internet. Shocker, right? (Note: I read somewhere that The Duchess has expressed a desire to be referred to as Catherine rather than Kate, so that’s what I’ll be calling her here.) Continue reading

How Cosplay Helped My Body Image

[TRIGGER WARNING: Eating disorders and related thinking and behaviors.]

If you had asked me three years ago to put on a skintight leotard and a pair of tights and then go to an event with thousands of other people, I’m not sure if I’d have laughed at you or thought you were playing some sort of cruel joke on me. I sure as hell wouldn’t have believed you if you told me that three years down the road it would be one of my favorite ways to spend my time. Continue reading

So Much for the “Life of the Mother”: The Death of Savita Halappanavar

Last month, a young woman named Savita Halappanavar was murdered by an Irish hospital. Yes, murdered. Let’s call it what it is. I refuse to sugarcoat a topic that should be treated as honestly and straightforwardly as possible, without the anti-choice rhetoric or pleasant popular media wording. Savita Halappanavar was denied an abortion, and it killed her. Continue reading

The Time Sir Patrick Stewart and I Talked Feminism

A couple of weeks ago, I had the privilege of meeting and speaking to Sir Patrick Stewart. Yes, that Patrick Stewart, who many of you may know as Captain Jean-Luc Picard of Star Trek: The Next Generation. I know, right?! I ventured out to Austin Comic Con (dressed as a slightly femme Tenth Doctor, naturally), intent on buying as many low-priced trade paperback comics and seeing as many Star Trek panels as possible. Well, I did that and more. This is the story of how I started talking domestic violence with Sir Patrick. Continue reading