A Letter to Decent Men: Let’s Talk About Physical Arrogance

[Original publication date: Feb. 28, 2014]

Dear Men,

Dear Decent Men,

This is not a letter to misogynists or selfish jerks, who aren’t going to pay attention to what I have to say anyway. It’s a letter to good, decent men who might not realize that they’re doing something that really frustrates a lot of women in their lives. It’s a letter to ask you to please start being more aware of your body and stop forcing it into other people’s personal space — especially women’s personal space. Continue reading A Letter to Decent Men: Let’s Talk About Physical Arrogance

Why is Leadership Journal Standing Behind a Rapist’s Essay?

Earlier this week, Leadership Journal, an imprint of Christianity Today, ran an essay written by an anonymous former youth pastor who is now serving a prison sentence for statutory rape. The problem: the writer never acknowledges the fact that his “affair” was actually rape, he wrote the piece as a self-indulgent morality tale about the dangers of what Christians call “falling into sin,” and he demonstrated zero self-awareness of his role as a sexual predator. Continue reading Why is Leadership Journal Standing Behind a Rapist’s Essay?

Dear Old Lady Who Was Giving Me Dirty Looks While I Was Breastfeeding My 3-month-old at the Café Today:

Hi!

My name’s Liz. I was at Concannon’s Bakery & Café this morning with my mom, my sister, and four great little kids. You chose to sit at the table next to us, even though the whole place was full of empty tables. We knew we were going to be a somewhat noisy group, so we had taken the table in the farthest corner of the restaurant. We blocked in the three- and four-year-old so they couldn’t try to run off—it was perfect. They sat there eating their donuts. My sister’s baby gobbled up his veggie multigrain crackers. I held my sweet little Neville, who is almost three months old and the happiest baby ever. Continue reading Dear Old Lady Who Was Giving Me Dirty Looks While I Was Breastfeeding My 3-month-old at the Café Today:

A Letter to Decent Men: Let’s Talk About Physical Arrogance

Dear Men,

Dear Decent Men,

This is not a letter to misogynists or selfish jerks, who aren’t going to pay attention to what I have to say anyway. It’s a letter to good, decent men who might not realize that they’re doing something that really frustrates a lot of women in their lives. It’s a letter to ask you to please start being more aware of your body and stop forcing it into other people’s personal space — especially women’s personal space. Continue reading A Letter to Decent Men: Let’s Talk About Physical Arrogance

Why I Told My Students That the “Freshman Fifteen” is Bullshit

I should emphasize something: I rarely swear in my classes. Sure, I often teach Anne Lamott’s “Shitty First Drafts” during the first week of my composition courses, and plenty of the readings I assign have their share of “bad words.” As a lecturer, though, I rarely utter anything worse than crap, hell, or piss. I teach at a Christian university; swearing in the classroom isn’t forbidden or anything, but it’s not the norm. Continue reading Why I Told My Students That the “Freshman Fifteen” is Bullshit

How a Conservative Christian Twenty-Something Changed Her Mind on Sexual Orientation

When my dad came out in 2004, I had already come to the conclusion that there was nothing spiritually or morally wrong about being gay. Sometimes it’s hard to figure out just how I managed to come to that conclusion, because I wasn’t in an environment where that perspective was encouraged at all. Continue reading How a Conservative Christian Twenty-Something Changed Her Mind on Sexual Orientation

Facebook: Take Action Against Sex Trafficking Page!

Earlier on Tuesday evening I was doing some research on Kolkata, India and was searching for some information about sex work in the city. I did a quick search for Sonagachi, which is the city’s largest red light district. In fact, it’s one of the biggest red light districts in all of Asia. Sonagachi is also the focus of the 2004 documentary Born Into Brothels. You can read about the crimes against women and girls that are committed in Sonagachi in a variety of places, or you can watch the documentary. Continue reading Facebook: Take Action Against Sex Trafficking Page!