Miz J, Miz J, Miz J: I will never not forgive this woman for raising the bar on being real. As a woman who’s had her sex life used to define her all her life, Miz J’s piece came at a particular time when I said, “Fuck it. I am promiscuous. I identify as a slut-whore-ho. What are you gonna do about it?” Look at the way she just mauls the double-standard apart! The way she talks about how we learn to navigate sex and sexual expectation through a culture that’s already against us. Miz J deserves a star in heaven for helping me understand better the nature of my sexual classification, how to take it back, and how to whoop ass with it. – Coco Papy Read More Best of P-Mag: The Power of Being a Promiscuous Woman
There are few four-letter words as nasty as the word “slut.” Few other words elicit such intense disdain, self-righteousness, or indignation. But what it actually means to be a slut in our culture is rife with complexities. Read More Sexuality Lacking Understanding and Thoughtfulness: What it Really Means to Be a SLUT
I have had sex with 37 men. Whether or not this qualifies as being promiscuous in the modern age is up for debate, but suffice it to say that I’ve had enough sex with enough men that I’ve forgotten some of their names (assuming I ever knew them).
The hyper-misogynistic sexual exploitation of Asian women in American culture is one of the racist paradigms that can perhaps most easily be traced back to recent history. For this reason, I am always gobsmacked when people try to brush it off as merely “a preference.” Read More Asian Women, American GIs, and Modern Rape Culture
In Roseanne Barr’s recent article for New York Magazine the actress recounts her years as the star of the ’80s laugh-track sitcom Roseanne and how, contrary to her reputation, she found fame to be the real bitch along with all the bitches in the television industry that will tear you down, rip you off and sell you out. Read More Why I’m Giving Roseanne Barr the Side-Eye
A couple years ago my cousin told me she had started a blog. Despite my fear of technology I began reading it regularly. I soon learned that there was an entire community of “bloggers” on the interwebs, some of whom were women of color that were sharing brilliant opinions on a diverse range of interests. Then one fateful day I followed my cousin’s “blogroll” to the sparkliest and snarkiest of all ladyblogs: Jezebel. Read More African-American History X: MizJenkins, Jezebel and the Banning of Black Thought
Last week I wrote a scathing rant about the ad campaign for USA Network’s new female-led legal drama Fairly Legal. In my rage I failed to realize the title was a play on the term “barely legal”, making it even more nauseating and demeaning to women than I originally thought. So I when I tuned into the pilot last week I was fully prepared to see another mini skirt-clad, glamorous-yet-adorably-flighty working girl bumbling about with file folders and shouting “I object!” as the barista hands her the wrong latte on the way to the office. I was only half right. Read More Fairly Decent
I have been down with USA Network since the days of the good ol’ Cartoon Express. Although they tend to get overlooked every year during awards season over the years the quiet geniuses in USA’s programming department have managed to tap into the innermost workings of the American t.v. viewer’s brain (I am convinced that they have hypnotists on staff…damned if those Law & Order SVU marathons don’t turn me into a certified zombie). Their finely targeted mixture of original series and syndicated favorites – which together comprise a fairly comprehensive portrait of the American cultural landscape – has yielded steadily increasing ratings for the better part of three decades. Read More Fairly Misogynistic