We Vibe It: Nexus, Jr and The Mistress

My sexuality and exploration of my awesome new body has continued to change over the course of my HRT. I have discovered a lot of new tricks to my new areas, and I have also found that certain things that I didn’t like before have become huge likes for me. It has been about a year since my last We Vibe It post, so I figured it was time to discuss some more awesome sex toys.  Read More We Vibe It: Nexus, Jr and The Mistress

Ugly As Sin: The Forever Price of Being Looked At

In David Foster Wallace’s cringe-inducing book, Brief Interviews with Hideous Men, he writes, “Or like just another manipulative pseudopomo Bullshit artist who’s trying to salvage a fiasco by dropping back to a metadimension and commenting on the fiasco itself.” Read More Ugly As Sin: The Forever Price of Being Looked At

My Favorite Bisexual

Bi Visibility Day (aka Celebrate Bisexuality Day) was September 23. In fact, this entire week is Bi Awareness Week. I’m bisexual, so hi. And I want to talk about my favorite (pop culture) bisexual.

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When Conde Nast Met Adult Entertainment: Becoming Belle Knox

It’s rare for media to provide a multi-dimensional portrait of sex workers. It’s even rarer when it comes from a media outlet responsible for such titles as Vanity Fair and The New Yorker.

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You Must Risk: Casual Sex and the Heart of the Matter

Q. How can I be promiscuous without contracting anything? How do I hack this? I want to get out there and have amazing adventures with wonderful, memorable people, and I’d also have sex with those people. But I do not want to catch anything. Ideally, I’d like to give handjobs in the beginning until he has time to get tested. (If he’s already been tested, cool! I’ll give it up sooner.) But I do not know how to finesse the situation. Is there something short and simple I can say? Maybe something like, “I practice safe sex, so let’s just get each other off and then if things work out we’ll go get tested and get tapas after.”

Maybe my problem is that I broke up with someone I was in love with and now I’m scared I’ll never love again. Whatever. Tell me what to do please and thanks! Read More You Must Risk: Casual Sex and the Heart of the Matter

Wax On, Wax Off: Rejection and the Past

Q. What do you do when you initiate sex with your partner and they’re not in the mood? And when they turn you down, it makes you feel small, mostly due to jackasses before (even though your partner is super cute and nice and kind)? Not that I have any experience with this. Read More Wax On, Wax Off: Rejection and the Past