The Things We Do To Our Children: Shame and Sex

Q. I don’t know how to say it. It might be considered as not a problem, but I feel really ashamed when I think of it. I am 21 and still a virgin. I’ve had boyfriends and we were practicing petting sometimes, one of them gave me oral sex, but I’ve never had sex, as I think I might be terrible at it and they may be only disappointed. Sometimes I think I really want this, but then something still keeps me from making the step. I don’t know if it’s the fear of unwanted pregnancy, or shame of virginity at age of 21, or the shame of my body. So I feel quite frustrated about all this, and I have no one to talk to about it. Read More The Things We Do To Our Children: Shame and Sex

Without Borders: On Boundaries and Communication

Q. So I have a friend that is significantly younger than me. He’s a nice kid, but very socially awkward. I try to give social pointers as much as I can, but I don’t think he really takes any of the advice I give him. Read More Without Borders: On Boundaries and Communication

Pitching and Catching: Asking For Anal

Q. Hi. I’m a guy, age 24, studying physics and math, who has a strong love of anal sex. I do my best to research stuff about it because the hottest thing for me is a girl who loves anal sex, and I’ll be damned if I screw that up for anyone by pushing too hard to do it, or by doing it wrong and hurting someone. I consider safety and her pleasure the highest priorities. I’ve tried to do things on the receiving end of ass play, but I haven’t figured out how to make it work for me, yet. I only know that I love being played with there as well. Read More Pitching and Catching: Asking For Anal

The Non-Dieter’s Holiday Survival Guide

It seems that every year around this time, I get gazillions of emails from folks who are nervous about the holidays.

Explaining to your family that you don’t want to know the number of calories in pecan pie, that you’re not interested in that new diet book that worked for your nephew’s former roommate, and that, yes, you have put on a little weight, and it’s totally OKAY, may not be your idea of a fun holiday. Read More The Non-Dieter’s Holiday Survival Guide

Best of P-Mag: The Power of Being a Promiscuous Woman

Miz J, Miz J, Miz J: I will never not forgive this woman for raising the bar on being real. As a woman who’s had her sex life used to define her all her life, Miz J’s piece came at a particular time when I said, “Fuck it. I am promiscuous. I identify as a slut-whore-ho. What are you gonna do about it?” Look at the way she just mauls the double-standard apart! The way she talks about how we learn to navigate sex and sexual expectation through a culture that’s already against us. Miz J deserves a star in heaven for helping me understand better the nature of my sexual classification, how to take it back, and how to whoop ass with it. – Coco Papy Read More Best of P-Mag: The Power of Being a Promiscuous Woman

The Power of Being a Promiscuous Woman

I have had sex with 37 men. Whether or not this qualifies as being promiscuous in the modern age is up for debate, but suffice it to say that I’ve had enough sex with enough men that I’ve forgotten some of their names (assuming I ever knew them).

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