Q. Is it bad to have friends with benefits? I am new to having sex as of a year or so ago, and I’ve only had sex with two people, many times. I’m only 18, but the two people I’ve had sex with were (and are — I’m having sex with someone presently) not my boyfriends. Is it bad if I’m just trying to learn? Should the guy always be the one to teach the girl? Read More No is a Complete Sentence
Q. I don’t know how to say it. It might be considered as not a problem, but I feel really ashamed when I think of it. I am 21 and still a virgin. I’ve had boyfriends and we were practicing petting sometimes, one of them gave me oral sex, but I’ve never had sex, as I think I might be terrible at it and they may be only disappointed. Sometimes I think I really want this, but then something still keeps me from making the step. I don’t know if it’s the fear of unwanted pregnancy, or shame of virginity at age of 21, or the shame of my body. So I feel quite frustrated about all this, and I have no one to talk to about it. Read More The Things We Do To Our Children: Shame and Sex
Q. I’m a virgin, but I really want to lose my virginity. The thing is, I’m shy. I don’t really like judgment. I guess what I’m trying to say is, how could I make myself more comfortable with revealing my body to someone? Read More Reveal: On That Scarlett Letter V
It is perhaps wise to begin by saying I’m not in my most forgiving mood, right now. Little Juniper is going through a growth spurt and night times aren’t quite as peaceful as they were a week ago. (Sleep, we will be reunited again before long, promise.)
iTunes was playing, and I was half-listening to the music while I watched the downpour outside. It’s summer for goodness sake. Sunshine and daisies are meant to be gracing our little part of Scotland at the moment. Instead, we have rain and, well, more rain.
So this afternoon I came across an article in The Guardian about rejecting beauty regimes and it kicked into gear thoughts that I’ve been having on make-up. I don’t wear make-up, but neither do I feel like I reject it, hence the title of this article. For some women, not wearing make-up is a rejection of the connotations, and a political statement. For me, not wearing make-up is, basically, an act of laziness. Read More It’s Not Political, It’s Laziness
I never wanted to be someone’s mother. In fact, until a few years ago, the very thought of pregnancy made me collapse with anxious dry-heaves. I was happy to have my dogs and to enjoy my niece and nephew. But giving birth and having babies myself straight up grossed me out and made me panic. Until I changed my mind. Read More There are Many Choices You Can Make: Or, How I Changed My Mind About Having a Baby
Popular culture likes to paint the definition of feminism as women’s goal to be equal to men. It’s the sanitized, simplified, and publicly palatable version of feminism. It’s the definition that many are exposed to first, that we see in the media, and what lots of adults will tell you when your eight year old self asks what feminism is. And to be fair, the definiton is not strictly incorrect. As many here know, the definition of feminism is a longstanding point of contention. One person’s definition is undoubtedly the one listed above. Another person’s defintion is all about choice. And obviously, we do not all agree with each other’s definitions. Putting those differences aside is a necessity, because it unites us all as part of a global movement with one overarching goal: to help women.