I, like many other people, have some social anxiety. Here’s the thing: I know I’m awesome. But I’m worried that other people won’t see how awesome I am, and also that I’ll say something dumb/offensive/super-nerdy before everyone has had too much to drink. (I have actually had someone say, “Oh, I forgot how smart you are! It’s adorable.” I felt about six inches tall, though the person meant well.) During my perilous forays into social situations, though, I have found some coping mechanisms. The best one is the compliment. Read More Etiquette: The Art of the Compliment
I’ve been promising to write this post for a while now.
A few months ago, I wrote a post about dealing with negative comments. You gave me some really positive feedback on it, but a number of you raised the question of how to deal with positive or seemingly-positive comments.
Spring is just around the corner. In most places, the weather is brightening up, clocks just changed (or will in a few weeks), and we’re well on our way out of the winter doldrums. For the first couple of months, I’ve focused a lot on how to react positively to negatives around you”¦ now it’s time to start turning that positivity on ourselves. The first step to doing that: learning how to accept compliments. Read More Positivity Challenge Week 10: Accepting Compliments
“You have beautiful hair.”
I almost had to look behind myself to see who the cashier was talking to. It couldn’t have been me. I barely finished drying it and just stuck it up in a ponytail in the morning and hadn’t taken it out since. My bangs were sure to be oily (from my huge forehead) and my roots were starting to come in. But she was, in fact, talking to me. And it brought a huge smile to my face as I said, “Thank you!” After my husband and I picked up our bags and started walking away, I realized I should have said something nice back. She had a really nice accent! Or… um… crap… I didn’t even see her name to compliment her next time I was shopping. I’d been blindsided by the compliment. I’d been the lucky recipient of a Compliment Drive-by. Read More Positivity Challenge Week 4: Drive-by Compliments
I have a co-worker who’s brilliant at giving compliments. She has a way of packing extra helpings of nice into every positive comment she makes. She once said to me, “Your hair looks especially great today!” Especially great. Not only is it a compliment for the hair on that particular day, but the implication is that, in order for hair to be especially great, it has to be great to start with, so it’s really a compliment for the hair every day! Read More How to Give Good Compliment: Turning Nice Thoughts into Nice Words