I have read a lot of books and articles about training, some of them from very famous trainers, that base their training on the idea that you can intensify fear, aggression, and other “negative” emotions in dogs by rewarding them with attention and treats. In order to avoid feeding these emotions and the related behaviors, you must ignore or correct your dog. If you give them positive attention at this time, you’re preventing them from developing independence and an ability to confidently navigate the world. So how does that work, and what does science have to say about it? Read More Feeding the Fear Monster
Every night before I go to sleep, I lay in my bed and pray. The first thing I pray for is my son; that he will have a good sleep, a good day, and that he’ll be happy, healthy, and safe. Read More Living With Chronic Pain
Paulo Coelho is one of my literary gaps – I’d heard of him, meant to read him, yet never got around to him until now. Is Manuscript Found in Accra the best introduction to him? I don’t know, but this slim novel – if “novel” is the right word – gives me plenty to think about. Read More Book Review: Manuscript Found in Accra by Paulo Coelho
I’ve never really, truly, been on my own before. And that scares the living shit out of me. While there is definitely a part of me that is looking forward to moving on and taking charge of my life, there is still another part of me that is absolutely terrified at the prospect. Read More Fear of Living Alone
As a blogger, I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about what kind of measures I want to use in order to determine how well I’m writing. Number of pageviews? Trackbacks? Comments? A few months ago I found myself getting so obsessive about my blog’s stats that I had to implement a procedure that would prevent me from looking at them. Since eliminating that evaluative criterium from my list, I moved on to fixating on comments. Specifically: what could I do in order to generate more of them?
This is our last vote together, we’re down to the final two badasses. In spite of my fear of being pitchforked, this has been one of the most fun projects I’ve ever done. I’m going to miss doing this every day. Not enough to do it again until next year, but you know what I’m sayin’. Read More Middlemarch Madness: Championship
Fear. We all experience it. Bogeymen hiding under the bed, planes dropping out of the sky, bombs exploding during national holidays ““ these are all things I regularly envision happening in my life. Some people might say I’m an anxious person, though I prefer the term “realistic.” But there are times when even I understand my fears are completely irrational. Read More Nothing to Fear but Fear Itself