How to Pretend to be a Functioning Adult

If there’s anything a Millenial knows, it’s that the future is scary. We all went to college assuming the economy would get better. We all went to college thinking that in doing so, we would be protecting ourselves from the scary things we were hearing in the news about recessions and possible depressions. We went, we learned, we partied, but what happens after that? How do we find work? How do we find a place to live? Now that we aren’t forced to socialize with people, how do we strike up conversations with new people? In short, how do we become or, at least, seem as responsible and put-together as our parents? These are daunting topics but I’ve got your back. Read More How to Pretend to be a Functioning Adult

You Don’t Need to Achieve Any of The Things on this List

I can’t stand “milestone timeline” articles that advise women that by the time they are 30 they should know how to prepare at least one flaming dessert, or that by the time they are 40 they should have done their first poetry reading. They are gimmicky, arbitrary, and seemingly designed to make readers feel inadequate. IMHO, the ones for women who have reached their 40s are the worst because so many of them involve emotional achievements: letting go of anger, forgiving oneself. However, a case can be made that the ones for women reaching 30 have their own particular cruelty, since they seem to assume that 30-year-olds have an enormous amount of extra cabbage for spontaneous trips to Paris. (Oh, yeah, and a lot of extra time, because they need to have a cross-USA road trip on the books by the time they hit the three decade mark.) Read More You Don’t Need to Achieve Any of The Things on this List

Dear 14-Year-Old Self

I know it’s etiquette day, but I’ve been doing a lot of teaching, and when dealing with kids, feelings about your own childhood eventually come up. For me, the worst time in my life was at fourteen, and I recently thought, “What would I tell fourteen-year-old me, if I could tell her anything?” And this was the answer.

Dear 14-year-old me: Read More Dear 14-Year-Old Self

Lunchtime Poll: Being A Humane Host

Look, it’s not that I don’t crave the outward signs of adulthood (they help people take my baby-faced self a little more seriously), it’s just that until recently, we neither needed nor wanted a dining table. Read More Lunchtime Poll: Being A Humane Host

Recap: Parenthood, Episode 3.17, “Remember Me, I’m the One Who Loves You”

This week’s episode of Parenthood was packed with plot progression and sweet scenes. There were laughs, there were tears, it was an episode that reminded me why I watch the show. Jaber brings his parents camping, Amber quits her job after the Bob Little Affair, Adam and Crosby are wooed with an offer to sell the Lucheneonette, and Zoe has the baby. Oh and Sarah thinks about moving to New York City. Read More Recap: Parenthood, Episode 3.17, “Remember Me, I’m the One Who Loves You”