Q. I have vaginismus and have never been able to have penetrative sex. While my boyfriend is supportive, he lives in another state and will be at least 300 miles away for the next 2-3 years. We see each other several times a year (and will see each other twice a month when he moves closer to me in the spring), but we’re both relatively inexperienced/awkward and have been struggling to find pleasurable alternatives to penetration. The whole situation has made me so depressed about having sex that my sex drive has evaporated and none of my regular “fixes” (reading racy novels, sending my boyfriend sexy texts) are helping. My boyfriend is worried about my lack of desire and how we’re going to balance his desire for penetration with my issues. He wants me to be enthusiastic about our sex life but doesn’t know how to help. Read More How To Deal: Living with Vaginismus
I’ve been feeling very disconnected from sex for a while, as if I’m just the bystander at the party and not a joyful, enthusiastic participant. Read More Living With Painful Intercourse: Am I Just a Sex Toy?