To Be Better: A Request, Post-9/11

As I sat in my apartment on Sunday, looking out over lower Manhattan, I felt miles away from the ceremonies that were taking place not even a ten-minute subway ride from my house. I feel isolated from this event, which in itself seems arrogant to say, yet accurate, as I do not feel like 9-11 is something that I could ever claim, if that is even possible. The day and its histories are an abstraction, something fraught and untouchable, yet part of complete normalcy that is now social fabric of the way we live now. Read More To Be Better: A Request, Post-9/11

Loving and Grieving

One of the curses of love is that if you love someone enough, their pain becomes your pain. Friends, family members, significant others: the more people you love, the more chances you have to get your heart broken.  I’m speaking specifically of grief. In 2010, I had occasion to watch more than one person I love (as it happens, close friends) deal with a devastating loss. These weren’t my losses; I was a spectator, a participant in the grieving process rather than a grieving person myself. Read More Loving and Grieving