Wax On, Wax Off: Rejection and the Past

Q. What do you do when you initiate sex with your partner and they’re not in the mood? And when they turn you down, it makes you feel small, mostly due to jackasses before (even though your partner is super cute and nice and kind)? Not that I have any experience with this. Read More Wax On, Wax Off: Rejection and the Past

Chasing Autonomy

To begin, I am the girl who always has a boyfriend.

I know you’re making assumptions right now and I’m here to tell you that yes, they are all true. I am needy, possessive, selfish, and in constant need of my significant other’s attention. I am your textbook case study of a girl who always needs to be with someone. Sure, I can claim that it might have something to do with my abandonment issues from my father constantly leaving and coming back into my life, or the separation anxiety disorder I harbor (among other anxiety disorders I have). But I’m 27 years old now, and with a year of therapy under my belt, I should be able to navigate my relationships onto a healthy path. Except, I underestimated how difficult that journey would be.

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On The Love And Life We Think We Deserve

A dear colleague-turned-friend of mine is planning to head to the jewelry store this weekend to pick out her engagement ring. She already has the wedding dress, potentially the new home and the rest of her future planned out. She was just waiting for the right guy to turn up.

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Saying Goodbye

If you have followed my writing since joining Persephone, you know this year has been mostly an amazing one for me. Besides marrying my beautiful wife, I have successfully transitioned. Though my life has mostly been on the ups, I have had a few downs. Lately one of these downs has been weighing on me heavily. For all that I have gained, losses seem to have piled up this year too.  Read More Saying Goodbye

“I Love You” Is Not A Solitary Sport

Q. I have found a lovely partner, and we’re very happy. However, we have very different view points on an issue that’s bound to pop up: love. He has had partners in the past, some for a year or longer, and has never said the words “I love you” to anyone but his family. Read More “I Love You” Is Not A Solitary Sport

Lunchtime Poll: Engagement Stories

My favorite celebrity got engaged to himself yesterday in ATT Park in San Francisco. Wait, what? Kanye did not get engaged to himself? So my birthday mate, Kim Kardashian, got a nice big engagement story from Kanye thanks to his proposal.  Read More Lunchtime Poll: Engagement Stories