I haven’t had the greatest experiences at family holiday get-togethers. I actually dread them. And not because I don’t like seeing my family but rather, I don’t like being in the same room with all of my immediate and extended family members at the same time. Continue reading
While it’s heartening to see marriage equality and other similar matters experiencing an avalanche-like amount of progress, I wish I could give you all an entirely happy news roundup again this week. Unfortunately, too much has happened that must be shared.
Today marks the beginning of National American Indian Heritage Month in the United States. Continue reading
Happy Friday, everyone! Are you suffering from a candy hangover? A regular hangover? Well, let’s take it easy on you and offer up some good news to end your week.
As of Wednesday evening, the U.S. government shutdown ended and almost nothing was accomplished. This sigh-worthy story and more, after the jump.
The exasperating thing about collecting links for this particular roundup is that one does not even have to try that hard in order to see stories that fit right into the subject of “WTF is up with this treatment of women?”
Law and politics have always intrigued me. When I was 8, I wanted to be a lawyer and a politician. I devoured any book about politics or legal matters that I could. I loved reading about Thomas Jefferson especially. His take on American Politics in the early days was something with which I enthusiastically agreed. It’s the whole, “I am a farm girl at heart,” and he was always talking about embracing the farmers as the backbone of society. Jefferson embraced rural middle and poor people more than many of the earlier presidents and set the tone for the modern-day Democratic Party.
Every year, an article comes out from a queer person bemoaning that Pride is nothing but problematic for the queer community now. I can understand some of the sentiment like the big Pride parades are all corporate tools for marketing; that gay inc is selling us out to the highest bidder. This may be true but it doesn’t matter as much as getting together with your friends and having a wonderful time does. Having fun is only part of the story though. To me, Pride is about us living our lives to the fullest and being fully realized people. As a transperson, this means being out and proud about my past, my present, and my future. Continue reading
Americans have always had a love-hate relationship with France. On the one hand, we use “French” as a positive adjective, applied to everything from kissing to toast, and we admire French cuisine and fashion.
As last fall’s election made painfully clear, we are a bitterly divided nation: liberal vs. conservative, urban vs. rural, blue vs. red. States in particular have gotten increasingly polarized, with many state legislatures in the control of super-majorities, each with their own occasionally defiant ideology.
I may be a card-carrying knee-jerk liberal, but I do my best to understand opposing points of view. (Maybe it was all my years as a high school & college debater, where you had to argue convincingly on both sides of any question.) I may not like their reasoning, but I can see why gun enthusiasts worry about any new laws, or why people who view life beginning at conception would try to ban abortion – they have something at stake. However, I have yet to see a single way in which allowing same-sex marriage does anything at all to heterosexual marriage. Divorce rates are down in Massachusetts, kids still play hockey in Canada, and the “it’s not natural” argument has been thoroughly debunked, not just by psychologists but by the volume of evidence about animal homosexuality being perfectly natural. Bonobos do it, birds & bees do it, and probably educated fleas do it. (Apparently there are even bisexual flowers and trees!) Continue reading
Having teenage kids gives you a whole variety of reminders that you’re getting older. You’ve probably had that experience of running into old friends and first thinking, hey, nothing has changed and then realizing, um, I was pregnant the last time I saw her and now that baby is in college.
We all have our own irrational fears, based on an emotional response rather than facts. Kids are afraid of monsters in the closet, phobics are afraid of spiders or the color red, single men are afraid of commitment, I’m afraid of cheerleaders – none of these things actually pose a threat, and we eventually either grow up, learn to move past our fears, or in the case of my husband, realize that being married is way more fun than he’d thought. Continue reading
The hardest lesson: no matter how determined and strong your love is for your children, it will never be enough to completely shield them from hate and ignorance. And sometimes all you can do is throw someone’s hate-filled chicken back at them and hope you score a head shot.
I’m not sure what more I can say that hasn’t already been said a hundred times across the great, wide Internet about last week’s victory for marriage equality advocates in New York State. It was long-fought, hard-won, and lots of other things that I’m sure also have hyphens in them. Continue reading