Love the One You’re With (You, Babe)

Q. I have a rather boring question: I’m a 20-something virgin who wants to take the plunge and get herself a vibrator but I have no clue what to look out for. Any tips to help there be some rain in this desert? Read More Love the One You’re With (You, Babe)

Why Be Normal When You Can Be Happy?

Q. I’m fourteen and masturbate very frequently — especially when it’s close to my period. And sometimes during (I read that it can relieve cramps… it works). However I’m not sure if this is normal. Can you tell me if this unusual or unhealthy? Read More Why Be Normal When You Can Be Happy?

My Vulgar Peculiarities: How I Came to Love My Vibrator

The first time I saw Madonna’s “Justify My Love” music video, I was only about 6 or 7 years old. It was playing on a late night music video show on MTV, and because I always had minimal supervision, I saw the whole music video without interruption, or fear of my parents finding out. I watched in awe and discomfort, instantly intrigued by the vivid images and movements between Madonna and the dancers, caressing and groping each other in each scene. I was too young to understand the complexity of these images, but looking back on this memory, I know that particular moment was the first time I became sexually excited.

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Mark Twain Knew Best: How to Be in the Moment

Q. How does someone who is accomplished at giving themselves orgasms do it with a partner? Like not let their mind wander off and think of all the ways that they can do a better job of giving the orgasm, instead of focusing on what is happening at the moment? How can one enjoy someone else’s technique? Read More Mark Twain Knew Best: How to Be in the Moment

We Vibe It: The Magic of the Magic Wand

My wife and I put Uncle Sam’s money to good use. Not only did we pay for our upcoming honeymoon to Portland, we finally bought a toy we had been coveting for a year or so. I had heard amazing reviews from my friends especially from a few trans friends about how awesome the Hitachi Magic Wand was. We had to feel this for ourselves.  Read More We Vibe It: The Magic of the Magic Wand

This Week in Misogyny (and Other Assorted F#@%ery)

I don’t know about you, but I’m exhausted from the ups and downs in the news this week. Wendy Davis is a big damn hero, but her efforts may be for nothing. SCOTUS’s decision on DOMA was a win for”¦ conservatives? My head is reeling. (As usual, trigger warnings for pretty much everything apply.) Read More This Week in Misogyny (and Other Assorted F#@%ery)

Performance As Play: Masturbation With An Audience

Q. I have a goal: I would like to masturbate in front of my boyfriend. But whenever I try to, I end up chickening out because I get so nervous. My boyfriend, my considerate and patient lover, was the one to encourage me to masturbate in front of him so that he could form a better understanding of what gets me off.  Read More Performance As Play: Masturbation With An Audience