Their Favorite Mom

The other day my daughter shared some letters she had written to each member of her family, including one to her birth mother, who is dead, and one to me. The letter to me was heartfelt and said how much she loved me. The letter to her birth mother, which she wanted me to read, said that my daughter would always love her birth mother the most. I told her it was OK that her birth mother has first place in her heart, and that she wasn’t hurting my feelings. I wasn’t lying. Read More Their Favorite Mom

You aren’t fated to be a bad parent just because yours were

Not all of us have had ideal parents, and sometimes long after we’re out of their sphere of influence, the damage they’ve done remains. I certainly fall into the category of someone who still is affected by what happened in her childhood, and the damage was enough that I worried that I’d do the same to my daughter. Read More You aren’t fated to be a bad parent just because yours were

This Week in Lady Reads

In case you missed them, here’s what we were reading last week about a recently retracted study, Game of Thrones, and much more. Plus, NSFW pics of a Harry Potter actor that, let’s face it, you’ve probably seen by now, but it can’t hurt to look again, amirite? Read More This Week in Lady Reads

This Week in Lady Reads

Views you can use, science, and April Fool’s jokes done right. Fun stuff! Read More This Week in Lady Reads

Thinking on My Feet

When I first discussed heaven with my adopted daughter, it was to help her handle the enormous losses she had suffered, first and foremost being the death of her mother. I didn’t think about the theological implications — I was providing answers that would help her sleep at night. At first she wanted very simple things for her mother — a pretty house with a vegetable garden, enough food, clothing. I answered her questions like a champ, describing the floor plan of her mother’s cottage and the amenities there — running water, electricity, a refrigerator. She was comforted to think of her mother living in what she saw as luxury. Read More Thinking on My Feet

2 Books for The Anti-Sanctimommy

No one has to be told that parenting is rough sometimes, but what’s hard to remember is that every kid is different. Making it even more difficult are the parents who think they know so much better than everyone else, and make it their job to let the world know. Though some of us have an easier time than others avoiding (or becoming) this sort of person, it’s good to see a new breed of parenting book making its way in this often complicated existence. Let’s take a look at two recently published reads for the Anti-Sanctimommy.

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Gift Guide for Geek Kids

A decade or so ago, a kid would be crushed to be labeled a geek. Nowadays, some kids wear the term like a badge of honor. “Heck yeah I’m a geek! I like comic books and video games and science and tech stuff!” If you’ve got a geek kid in your life and you need some ideas for what to get them for a holiday gift, here are a few to get you started.

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Birth. Stories. Horror. Power.

Stories matter. They are one of the fundamental ways in which we learn. In pregnancy and childbirth, “horror stories” are to avoided. To be ignored. To be drowned out by the empowered. Why does empowerment need to come at the exclusion of a whole spectrum of knowledge? Read More Birth. Stories. Horror. Power.