This year, I spent Thanksgiving with my family in California. I decided to stay for a week in order to spend time with my family and friends, and especially to catch up with my uncle, who would be spending his first Thanksgiving here in the U.S. after officially gaining his permanent residency. My mom had petitioned him to move to the U.S. from the Philippines when he was 14 years old. Now he is 36 years old, has a girlfriend, two children, and is entering into this unusual transition in his life twenty-two years later.
When Karishma first posted her list of personal anecdotes, P-Mag collectively decided that having more of us write our own would be an amusing idea. Let us delve into my stubborn, enthusiastic past, shall we?
So, my home state has not been getting very good press lately. Granted, it’s entirely deserved. The state’s infamous “Stand Your Ground” law is either a legitimate defense or a means to justify homicide, depending on your race. Two different juries composed of eligible citizens acquitted George Zimmerman of murdering Trayvon Martin near Orlando in “self-defense,” while convicting Marissa Alexander, a black woman living in Jacksonville, to 20 years in prison for discharging a gun into the air to scare off an abusive ex. Continue reading
It seems to me that nowadays, the idea of self-love has become a trend. As far as I can remember, I’ve always seen my aunt read about it in magazines, but I feel as though in today’s society it is more of a grossing business and less of a personal and spiritual matter. Continue reading
â€¦you begin to meet people who are in the field of your bliss, and they open the doors to you. I say, follow your bliss and don’t be afraid, and doors will open where you didn’t know they were going to be.
—from The Power of Myth by Joseph Campbell Continue reading
It turns out that â€¦ danger and noise â€“ the perception of danger â€“ causes these animals’ heart rates to plummet â€“ particularly the juveniles â€“ and that really super-slow heart rate keeps them still, and that’s probably protective. It’s an anti-predation response. â€¦ It turns out that animals and humans are equipped not with two, but three responses . . . fight, flee, faint.
– from What Animals Can Teach Us About Health and the Science of Healing by Dr. Barbara Natterson-Horowitz, on National Public Radio, April 22, 2013. Continue reading
You never forget your first time.
I, like many women, am prone to PMS. Continue reading
I’m just your average looking white girl who refuses to listen to anything besides rap. It’s one of those things that in part, I kind of can’t explainâ€¦ like, why do I like the color orange? Why do I like broccoli but not Brussels sprouts? It’s just a certain taste that I’ve come to acquire. On the other side of this reasoning, I’m really passionate about a lot of what hip hop music stands for, although the genre as a whole does tend to get dumped on a little excessively for being misogynistic and glorifying criminal lifestyles. But some of the things that hip-hop gets a bad rap for–no pun intended–are in fact some of the aspects I am absolutely in love with: the cockiness most rappers bring to their personas, the blunt, unforgiving nature of some songs, and just the fact that hip-hop uses a certain level of shock value to attract attention to the genre itself. Rap music is often rude, aggressive, and in-your-face and that’s the very reason I love it even when some songs are very problematic. Continue reading
From a very young age, I remember being subjected to the idea that I needed a man to â€œrescue meâ€ and to â€œmake me complete.â€ We are shown Disney movies in which the princess needs to be rescued, comedies where the leading lady is doing everything she can to nab a man, and movies in which women are portrayed as â€œlackingâ€ if they aren’t married to a man.
I have a confession to make: 1992 was not my year. Honestly, I had forgotten how bad of a year it was until after I had signed up for the “Nostalgia Project” and began thinking back on some memories from that year. Continue reading
I’m not one for resolutions, for a variety of reasons (mostly because it’s just setting myself up to fail). Last year, I finished up “The Happiness Project” just before New Year’s and chose to carry that spirit forward with my 2012 Positivity Challenge. Being in a place (both mentally and physically) of so much transition at the moment, I knew I wanted to do something this year, but what? The other day, it came to me: 13 Words. Thirteen words to carry with me through the year as mantras, as intentions, as meditations, as guiding principles, as things to ground me. Thirteen Words. A baker’s dozen. One for each month, and an extra for the year. And as soon as I started thinking about it, the words started coming to me in a flood. Here they are, in no particular order: Continue reading
Greeting card companies and the florist industry would never let us forget that tomorrow is Valentine’s Day. In Minnesota, the group Minnesotans United for All Families will gather to celebrate Freedom to Marry Day at the Capital Hill in St. Paul. They support the belief that persons in same gender relationships should be allowed to be married. I can’t be there in person, but I’ll be there in spirit. My Aunt-in-Law, Pastor Anita C. Hill will be there. Yes, she is a woman, and a fully ordained pastor with the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America. She is also in a committed relationship with another woman. And, she is from Mississippi. Continue reading