TDG 2/2: Narnia is Real

A few of your Persephone writers are trapped either under a three inch layer of ice or in the path of a blizzard, some of us are a little of column A, a little of column B.  If you notice gaps in our schedule it’s because somebody lost power, we’ll catch up when it comes back on. Read More TDG 2/2: Narnia is Real

Photographer Spotlight

Editor’s note: We’ve been incredibly lucky to find three (3!) incredibly talented photographers who have agreed to lend their talents to Persephone.  This post will introduce you to one of them, federov.  I found her on tumblr, home of all sorts of incredibly talented people and our prime recruiting spot.  Please enjoy her gorgeous (and I mean gorgeous) photography after the cut.  ~Ophelia Read More Photographer Spotlight

Ladyghosts: We Stink This Week

We’ve been in a tizzy at the Persephone offices and we’ve all slacked on our ladyghost duties this week.  I’m here to promise we’ll all be back next week and fully on our game.  In the meantime, I made a lazy blogger post of You Tube videos on the other side of the cut.  Persephone bitches love videos. Read More Ladyghosts: We Stink This Week

The Daily Goodie: We Heart Instagram

Good morning!  Happy hump day!  There’s a foot of snow on the ground, it’s cold and it stays dark too long, but we’re here to brighten your day and give you something interesting to read about.   To get you started, I found a lovely photostream on Flickr with a photographer showing off the iPhone Instagram app.  (Does anyone know if it’s available for Android?) Check out the pretty after the break. Read More The Daily Goodie: We Heart Instagram

I turn my camera off

gaga flipping off cameraI used to roll my eyes at the women who would giggle and scream and put their hands in front of their faces whenever anyone brought out a camera at any type of gathering.  That was before yesterday when I fell on my FACE on my way to a get-together.  I arrived scraped, bruised, and swollen with no desire to have my busted up face be in any pictures of the day.  After politely declining (twice!) to get in a picture, I finally had to firmly say to my friend, “Seriously. No. Please don’t make me ask it again.”  It was uncomfortable for everyone and it led me to wonder, what is the etiquette for picture-taking at parties and gatherings?

In my embarrassment and frustration yesterday, I decided that the etiquette should be that anyone who wants to be the “photographer” should have to individually ask everyone if they are ok being in pictures.  When I was discussing it with Mr. Furious, he disagreed, saying that if you go to an event like that there is an understanding that there is going to be at least one person who wants to be the historian of the event.  I know that, but truth be told, I was wary of going to this event in the first place because I didn’t want my picture taken and I wanted to avoid the type of encounter I had with my friend.  For some people this is a really foreign feeling, they don’t know what it’s like to not like the way you look and to have picture-taking factor into a decision about whether or not they would attend an event.  For the rest of us, it’s all too familiar, and I’m sure there are many of us who have feigned illness or a death in the family to avoid being at an event where people would be taking pictures.

So why is there no set etiquette for this?  A quick google search and I couldn’t find anything that was not related to wedding photography.  So, maybe asking each person individually if they want their picture taken is impractical.  I think ultimately, declining politely – versus bringing everyone’s attention to oneself with antics about avoiding a picture is appropriate.  As is accepting immediately if someone says they don’t want their picture taken.  Chances are, this person does not want to get into all the reasons why they would prefer not to have a picture.  So, as a plea for those of us who are photo-phobic, just let us be!