I’ve been thinking a lot about self-help books lately. With my current situation of transitioning out of grad school and into the working world (at least for a year or two until I decide if I want to pursue a Ph.D. or not), I’ve contemplated frequently about my skill set and abilities. Like with most transitions, the path is not easy and having anxiety hasn’t been much help either. So I’ve found myself turning to the world of self-help books. Read More The Problem With Self-Help Guides and the “Lean In” Phenomenon
Here is my recap and review of The War of Art by Steven Pressfield.
Step 1. Read this book.
Step 2. Do your work. Read More Do Your Work: A Short and Sweet Recap of “The War Of Art”
I have a crisis, scheme, idea or depression.. subway riders viewing my grotesque facial grimaces + head twisting staring me in the face in my 37th year. I prefer death, nothing less than the face of hate, the fate of hate, the stench of death. Live = Death
Life = Death
Death = Freedom
The first few pages of Beautiful Wreck: Sex, Lies & Suicide set the tone for the memoir’s raw, real look at the struggles Stephanie Schroeder, a self-defined “queer feminist dyke writer, mental health advocate, and activist for social and economic justice,” faced with depression, intimate partner violence, bipolar disorder, Tourette’s Syndrome, and three suicide attempts.
Laura Vanderkam thinks you do. She’s convinced me that I am dicking around way too much and that I could be significantly more amazing if I changed that. Read More Do You Have More Time Than You Think?
Off the top of your head, what’s the most important thing a burlesque performer needs to have? It’s hard to narrow down. Costumes, makeup, a routine, music, eyelashes that don’t rip your skin off, pasties that don’t fall off, and always, always more of everything. Read More One Pasty At A Time: Ultimate Self-Confidence
Today’s LTP is simple. Or maybe complex if you are a reader of multiple books at one time. What are you reading right now? This is, after all, a blog for bookish women. Also, would you recommend the book you are reading? Read More Lunchtime Poll: 10/12/11
My roommate is 21 going on 14 and decided to get kittens (a brother and sister) right after I moved in. I’m pretty sure she got them purely for the cute factor. Four months later she still has not gotten their vaccinations or fixed. AND they came with fleas. She buys them flea stuff but it sucks and basically doesn’t do anything. I should also mention that these are indoor cats. They are about 6 months old now and I’m sure that they are going to make incestuous kittens. I already feel like the bitch of the house because I get on her all the time about the cats but this not being fixed thing is really getting to me. Specially after I saw the male mount the female on top of my t.v. Money is not an issue for her since her parents still support her but money is an issue for me and I can’t move out to get away. So is there a nice way that I can tell her to get the cats fixed or give them to someone who will take care of them properly?
Don’t Want To Be A Den Mother
Roommates are the worst. Seriously. Even if you have really great roommates, there is still a lot that really sucks. Having shitty roommates can really negatively impact one’s quality of life. So..about the kittens. My first reaction is to tell you to be straightforward with her. The nice way would be to say, “Hey roomie. I saw your cats trying to do it the other day. Since that’s how kittens are made and since we don’t want more kittens, please go get them fixed or give them away before it’s a problem.”
But if you decide not to do that, or it doesn’t work, your roommate will learn her lesson on her own. They’re not your cats, and you shouldn’t feel like you need to be responsible for them. If the cat gets pregnant then it’s your roommate’s problem, not yours. If it eases your mind at all, I don’t think incest carries quite the same taboo in the feline community. Also, female cats can have litters by different fathers, so they may only be half-brother and sister!
Good luck with your roommate!
What say you?
My mom (Gracie Tucker aka Mama Grace) and I (Luci Furious) have talked for years about doing an advice column together – a mother/daughter perspective from two women from different generations who are very opinionated and don’t always agree. Read More Call for Questions!