We Vibe It: Nexus, Jr and The Mistress

My sexuality and exploration of my awesome new body has continued to change over the course of my HRT. I have discovered a lot of new tricks to my new areas, and I have also found that certain things that I didn’t like before have become huge likes for me. It has been about a year since my last We Vibe It post, so I figured it was time to discuss some more awesome sex toys.  Read More We Vibe It: Nexus, Jr and The Mistress

This Week in Misogyny is Scarier than Your Halloween Costume

Y’all. It’s been a hell of a week. Of course we’re still dealing with GamerGate, plus the backlash to the street harassment video that everyone loved just a few days ago. And don’t forget the fucked up Halloween costumes that are already out there! (As usual, trigger warnings for pretty much everything apply.) Read More This Week in Misogyny is Scarier than Your Halloween Costume

Sex On The Micro-Side: Your Questions, Redux

Q. If a solid latex dildo has been lubed or washed with the wrong product, and is now sticky, is there a way to neutralize the deterioration, or should we just get a new one? Read More Sex On The Micro-Side: Your Questions, Redux

Love the One You’re With (You, Babe)

Q. I have a rather boring question: I’m a 20-something virgin who wants to take the plunge and get herself a vibrator but I have no clue what to look out for. Any tips to help there be some rain in this desert? Read More Love the One You’re With (You, Babe)

My Vulgar Peculiarities: How I Came to Love My Vibrator

The first time I saw Madonna’s “Justify My Love” music video, I was only about 6 or 7 years old. It was playing on a late night music video show on MTV, and because I always had minimal supervision, I saw the whole music video without interruption, or fear of my parents finding out. I watched in awe and discomfort, instantly intrigued by the vivid images and movements between Madonna and the dancers, caressing and groping each other in each scene. I was too young to understand the complexity of these images, but looking back on this memory, I know that particular moment was the first time I became sexually excited.

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There Are No Clean Cut Answers: Needs, Fetishizing “Otherness,” and Communication

Q. My husband wants to have a threesome with a she-male or male ( a penis inside him and his in me). The situation has been pressing on and on for about a year. His birthday is coming up and he asked again. I’m scared partly of being with him and another man, and partly because the sin I feel. We’ve discussed how I feel about it many times this past year. I feel he is being selfish and that the conversations feel all about his pleasure. I am very sexual and when I’m not getting the right amount of pleasure, I get frustrated. How do I get him to forget about other people and focus on us? Also, it is so hard for me to have an orgasm, he has become discouraged before in trying. Which is another reason I think he want to try something new (like a threesome). What can I do to make it easier for him to be able to give me an orgasm? Read More There Are No Clean Cut Answers: Needs, Fetishizing “Otherness,” and Communication