The Problem With The “Largest Study To Date” On Infidelity

In case this is your first time reading anything written by me — your humble narrator — let it be known: I’m wildly cynical. So it should come as no surprise that findings from what’s being touted as “the largest study to date” about infidelity have me simultaneously scratching my head and rolling my eyes. Read More The Problem With The “Largest Study To Date” On Infidelity

Kaley Cuoco-Sweeting’s Not A Feminist Because She’s Never Faced Inequality? The Internet Suggests Otherwise

On CBS’ The Big Bang Theory, Kaley Cuoco-Sweeting plays Penny, a busty, scantily-clad blonde bimbo who is lusted after by a group of brilliant male nerds.

But lest you think this very premise is rooted in entrenched sexism, Cuoco-Sweeting has let the world know, via an interview with Redbook, that: Read More Kaley Cuoco-Sweeting’s Not A Feminist Because She’s Never Faced Inequality? The Internet Suggests Otherwise

Dispatches from Ladyblogland

Nothing tops last week’s otter, but we found fun links this week anyway.

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Did Anna Magdalena Write the Bach Cello Suites? Who Cares!

Articles and think pieces about how Anna Magdalena Bach may have written the Bach Cello Suites and other pieces are making the rounds again, but it seems that everyone is missing the point. Who cares if she DID write the pieces — the point is, she COULD have. Read More Did Anna Magdalena Write the Bach Cello Suites? Who Cares!

An Insider’s Look At The Strangely Sexist World Of Waitressing

Like more than 2 million waiters and waitresses across the country, I know what it’s like to fill up water carafes while balancing a plate in the other hand, how to feign joy while crooning “happy birthday” to unsuspecting patrons, and the mnemonic devices necessary for memorizing specials, salad dressings and sides. And as for many, mastering these arguably odd, motor and interpersonal skills was in many ways a godsend — in my case, waitressing helped me through grad school and, later, my requisite unpaid journalism internship.

Having been through the waiter-ly ringer myself, I can vouch for the fact that serving is, in addition to many other things, absolutely sexist. Read More An Insider’s Look At The Strangely Sexist World Of Waitressing

Ugly As Sin: The Forever Price of Being Looked At

In David Foster Wallace’s cringe-inducing book, Brief Interviews with Hideous Men, he writes, “Or like just another manipulative pseudopomo Bullshit artist who’s trying to salvage a fiasco by dropping back to a metadimension and commenting on the fiasco itself.” Read More Ugly As Sin: The Forever Price of Being Looked At

A Letter to Decent Men: Let’s Talk About Physical Arrogance

[Original publication date: Feb. 28, 2014]

Dear Men,

Dear Decent Men,

This is not a letter to misogynists or selfish jerks, who aren’t going to pay attention to what I have to say anyway. It’s a letter to good, decent men who might not realize that they’re doing something that really frustrates a lot of women in their lives. It’s a letter to ask you to please start being more aware of your body and stop forcing it into other people’s personal space — especially women’s personal space. Read More A Letter to Decent Men: Let’s Talk About Physical Arrogance