I Am Never Getting Better and That’s OK

I have come to realize recently that my struggles with mental health are always going to be there. I can’t magically make my depression, anxiety, and PTSD disappear. I can’t magically change my brain into a neurotypical one.  Read More I Am Never Getting Better and That’s OK

10-Second Anecdotes That Reveal Too Much About Me: Karo

One of the side effects of having a regular column is revealing things about yourself little by little, until you stop noticing how much personal stuff you’re actually telling perfect strangers. To pre-empt a slow and boring process, let me just tell you everything there is to know right now, and be done with it. Read More 10-Second Anecdotes That Reveal Too Much About Me: Karo

Your Elevator Speech

When I took a course in grantwriting last year, we were told that the key to raising money for any cause is the ability to sell your cause to others quickly and efficiently. We’ve all heard about the elevator speech in which you spit everything out in three minutes or less. Read More Your Elevator Speech

Extreme Close-Up in Slow Motion: Living With Social Anxiety

When I tell someone I have social anxiety, the response is generally somewhere in between an eye roll and, “Yeah, sometimes I just want to stay home, too.” But it’s more than getting overwhelmed by crowds or not wanting to be around people. It’s a very real anxiety disorder (it’s in the DSM, even!) that often controls my behavior and causes my body to react in really crappy ways, to the point where I more often than not require medication to manage it. Read More Extreme Close-Up in Slow Motion: Living With Social Anxiety

Etiquette: The Art of the Compliment

I, like many other people, have some social anxiety. Here’s the thing: I know I’m awesome. But I’m worried that other people won’t see how awesome I am, and also that I’ll say something dumb/offensive/super-nerdy before everyone has had too much to drink. (I have actually had someone say, “Oh, I forgot how smart you are! It’s adorable.” I felt about six inches tall, though the person meant well.) During my perilous forays into social situations, though, I have found some coping mechanisms. The best one is the compliment. Read More Etiquette: The Art of the Compliment

Dry Wit: Cope on a Rope

“Drinking Problem”: is that phrase not the understatement of the century? It’s such a polite way of saying, “This woman is a hot mess after one glass of wine, so just wait till you see her after the sixth!”

Social Anxiety Is . . .

Social anxiety is not just being shy; social anxiety is not just being awkward. Shy people will still go to that party; they will still go out and try to have fun. Social anxiety is isolating yourself even though you want to go out and “have fun.” Read More Social Anxiety Is . . .