You Must Risk: Casual Sex and the Heart of the Matter

Q. How can I be promiscuous without contracting anything? How do I hack this? I want to get out there and have amazing adventures with wonderful, memorable people, and I’d also have sex with those people. But I do not want to catch anything. Ideally, I’d like to give handjobs in the beginning until he has time to get tested. (If he’s already been tested, cool! I’ll give it up sooner.) But I do not know how to finesse the situation. Is there something short and simple I can say? Maybe something like, “I practice safe sex, so let’s just get each other off and then if things work out we’ll go get tested and get tapas after.”

Maybe my problem is that I broke up with someone I was in love with and now I’m scared I’ll never love again. Whatever. Tell me what to do please and thanks! Read More You Must Risk: Casual Sex and the Heart of the Matter

Ass And You Shall Receive: Anal Sex and Lubrication

Q. “I’ve always been all about preaching the joys of lubricant in anal sex. However… I have a partner I see maybe once a month, depending on if my work schedule takes me to his area. He’s fabulous. We aren’t romantic – I think we have different ideas about how to raise families or I’d venture giving that a try based on how easy our friendship and sexual connections are. But yes, it’s very good. Read More Ass And You Shall Receive: Anal Sex and Lubrication

Honey, We’ve Got A Leak: Anal Sex And Its Friendly Fluids

Hello chickadees! I’m self-welcoming myself as one of the newest contributors to Persephone’s ever loving (in all the right ways) sex advice column. Like a moth to the flame, I’ve really enjoyed reading the best and brightest advice that the Frisky Feminist has offered and now I say with great pleasure (potentially the self-loving kind, later this evening) to be a part of this sexy little team. So hand over the worst, the best, and the ones that have got your head scratching, and we will get these boots knocking. Now, without further ado, lets hop into this week’s query.

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A Crapload of Condom Options for the Latex-Sensitive

Q: Okay, so I’m about to make a serious decision about consummating my relationship, but I am super sensitive to anything latex and was wondering if there was such a type of thing as a cloth condom? Thanks! Read More A Crapload of Condom Options for the Latex-Sensitive

So You Want to Have a Threesome

Q: Me and my boyfriend (been together for about a year, I’m 19 years old, he was my first and my first serious boyfriend, I’m about his tenth sexual partner but also first serious girlfriend) would like to get more into swinging, threesomes, etc. We haven’t tried anything like that before and I’m worried about certain aspects Read More So You Want to Have a Threesome