Within the close circle of people I love, there have been dozens (literally) of pretty life-altering, somewhat tragic circumstances happening lately. Deaths in the family, serious illnesses, financial catastrophes, long-term relationships breaking up, heartbreak left and right. The gods are cruel.
Anyway, I believe strongly in feeding grief. It’s how I was raised, and it’s how I know what to do when things go badly. But most of my close circle lives, geographically, scattered to the wind these days. From previous conversations here about friendship, I know that’s true for many of you. Which brings us to today’s Lunchtime Poll.
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Rather by accident, this is going up the day after Valentine’s. Perhaps my subconscious was trying to tell me something. Somewhat less subtle than my subconscious were the chocolates and roses from Mr. Juniper. I did ask him if they were to sweeten me up over this article and he burst out laughing. Read More Caregiving: Sex And Intimacy
Welcome back to Ask the Editors, where we here at Persephone do our best to bring together the multi-generational wisdom of our editorial team to answer burning reader questions. If you’d like to ask a question of your own, you can use this completely anonymous Ask Us form.
Read More Ask the Editors: Someone Else’s Breakup
Where to begin? I feel like there should be a punch line around here somewhere. Support for carers is an interesting one, for a couple of reasons in particular. One is that whatever support there is for the person being cared for (with the dear hope that there is some), there is usually only a fraction for the carer. The other is the hierarchy in support concerning carers of people with physical issues and carers of people with psychiatric issues, or rather, an attitude of some that there should be a hierarchy. Read More Caregiving: Support
Last week, I got a barrage of emails asking me to fill out year-end surveys about the various campus programs and initiatives. After several years working in psychology labs and seeing both how important surveys are and how often they are ignored, I have developed an intense guilt complex surrounding my interactions with surveys: now, I fill them all out. One them asked me to report my experiences and awareness of various family support programs, and I was surprised by how little I knew about them. Read More Women in Academia: Making Life Easier for Parents
Congratulations, you successfully had a baby (or babies)! You’ve managed to complete The World’s Scariest Drive Home with your new addition, and now you’re staring down the barrel of The Rest Of Your Life. A baby isn’t raised in a vacuum, however, and you’ll need help. Read More A Womb of One’s Own: New Mama Support Team
When it comes to feeling low and lousy, I can safely say I have seen and done it all. And if there’s one thing I’ve learned over the years, it’s that when you’re depressed, getting support from the people around you may be one of the hardest things to do. Telling someone how you feel can be risky, especially when you’re not sure how they’ll react; asking someone for help and support can be even worse, especially when you’re not even sure what they might be able to do for you. Read More “I’m Sorry You’re Suffering”: Offering Someone Your Support