Dear Caitlyn

Content Warning: Suicide Ideation, Transmisogyny

Caitlyn, it’s been over six months since you announced who you really are. While the hoopla over a Olympic gold medalist coming out as trans has not died down, trans women have increasingly been trying to distance ourselves from you.
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Breaking Up is Hard to Do

Giving up something you have loved for six years is really really freaking hard. Anytime someone breaks up with a long term relationship, the fallout hurts immensely. Last week, I was forced into a break up of a six year relationship. Transmisogyny ruined this relationship. (Spoilers below) Read More Breaking Up is Hard to Do

I Am Never Getting Better and That’s OK

I have come to realize recently that my struggles with mental health are always going to be there. I can’t magically make my depression, anxiety, and PTSD disappear. I can’t magically change my brain into a neurotypical one.  Read More I Am Never Getting Better and That’s OK

Yay Marriage! What’s Next?

Now that Notorious RBG and her crew used some jiggery-pokery, marriage equality is the law of the land. Everybody seems to be asking, what is next? Read More Yay Marriage! What’s Next?

Unwelcome Home

It just hit me. My grandpa’s 90th birthday is fast approaching. My mother has been doing her motherly things and has planned a grand escape for the family. She rented a whole section of cabins on Lake McDonald in Glacier Park. It is one of my papa’s favorite places. All of the family has been invited to this big party. Both of her brothers and their spouses will be there, as will all of their children. I, the disappointment, will not. I am unwelcome.  Read More Unwelcome Home

Someone Teach Me How to Swim

[Content Warning: Discussion of suicide and self-harm, trans slurs]

23 was a terrible age in a lot of ways. I was drowning. I was struggling. My life was in shambles. I tried to end it and I ended up in a hospital that didn’t know how to treat my dysphoric depression. I ended up being sent to a therapist who saw mostly LG patients and had seen a few trans patients. It seemed, though, like she had what I would consider very old-school ideas on what being trans meant.  Read More Someone Teach Me How to Swim

One Size Does Not Fit All: The Trans Experience

“For all intents and purposes, I’m a woman.” -Bruce Jenner

I had been dreading this day for a few weeks now. The Event had been on my mind and I am sure other trans people’s minds for a while. We had all seen the tabloid headlines proliferate over the last year, and especially over the last few months. Read More One Size Does Not Fit All: The Trans Experience

We Vibe It: Nexus, Jr and The Mistress

My sexuality and exploration of my awesome new body has continued to change over the course of my HRT. I have discovered a lot of new tricks to my new areas, and I have also found that certain things that I didn’t like before have become huge likes for me. It has been about a year since my last We Vibe It post, so I figured it was time to discuss some more awesome sex toys.  Read More We Vibe It: Nexus, Jr and The Mistress