The Things We Do To Our Children: Shame and Sex

Q. I don’t know how to say it. It might be considered as not a problem, but I feel really ashamed when I think of it. I am 21 and still a virgin. I’ve had boyfriends and we were practicing petting sometimes, one of them gave me oral sex, but I’ve never had sex, as I think I might be terrible at it and they may be only disappointed. Sometimes I think I really want this, but then something still keeps me from making the step. I don’t know if it’s the fear of unwanted pregnancy, or shame of virginity at age of 21, or the shame of my body. So I feel quite frustrated about all this, and I have no one to talk to about it. Read More The Things We Do To Our Children: Shame and Sex

Reveal: On That Scarlett Letter V

Q. I’m a virgin, but I really want to lose my virginity. The thing is, I’m shy. I don’t really like judgment. I guess what I’m trying to say is, how could I make myself more comfortable with revealing my body to someone? Read More Reveal: On That Scarlett Letter V

This Week in Misogyny

Mercifully, there wasn’t a lot of news this week, though Reddit continues to be terrible and Pat Robertson proved once again what a moron he is. However, I’ve got a ton of good posts from elsewhere on the internet for y’all to read, on topics ranging from Gisele Bündchen’s breastfeeding controversy to progressives who still have misogynist attitudes. (As usual, trigger warnings for pretty much everything apply.) Read More This Week in Misogyny

Virginity, Fantasy, and What to Take Away

Q. The other night when having a sleepover with my best friend (we are both girls) things got a little sexy, I guess. I am still young and I think I’m a virgin. Would my friend and I licking and gibbering each other’s pussies make us lose our virginity? Read More Virginity, Fantasy, and What to Take Away

The Power of Being a Promiscuous Woman

I have had sex with 37 men. Whether or not this qualifies as being promiscuous in the modern age is up for debate, but suffice it to say that I’ve had enough sex with enough men that I’ve forgotten some of their names (assuming I ever knew them).

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Is Cake Better After Dinner?: Delayed Gratification in the “True Love Waits” Movement

True love, in the modern context, is the stuff of fairy tales and films like The Princess Bride. To many, it seems unachievable, but there is a strong movement among teens and young adults that contends that true love is common and achievable. However, a very strict path must be followed to reach that end. Read More Is Cake Better After Dinner?: Delayed Gratification in the “True Love Waits” Movement

Let’s Talk Sex: Wrap it Up, People. (And support Planned Parenthood!)

Well, it’s been a great week talking sex with all you lovely Persephone commenters. This week we covered changing sexuality, masturbation, slut shaming, and the discovery of sexual pleasuuuuure. Read More Let’s Talk Sex: Wrap it Up, People. (And support Planned Parenthood!)

Ask STFU Jezzies – 1/13

Dear STFUJezzies: This is feedback to your virgin question. A couple of months ago I was dating and de-virginized an “accidental” virgin (he was 31, I am close in age). The sex was not great, but it’s not always great the first time, so I thought, well, we can try this again. Read More Ask STFU Jezzies – 1/13