A few days ago, I recorded an interview with Sharon Crawford for The Spiritual Path To Food And Body Freedom Summit (feel free to check out it out here). I was asked to speak about Health At Every Size(SM), and bring that different perspective to the summit. I talked about all of the benefits of HAES(SM) of course, but I also went off on some well-worn tangents and some totally new ones (at least for me).
I found myself talking about body acceptance as a major peace movement of our century, and I truly think that it is.
In our culture, we learn to wage war on our bodies. We fight the battle of the bulge (not the WWII version), we fight our fat, fight our hunger. We strive for control over the size our bellies and thighs. We use chemical warfare (diet pills), surgical strikes (weight loss surgery, liposuction). I can’t tell you how many clients have said to me that they’ve fantasized about cutting off the fat from their bodies. Maybe you can relate to that concept.
This is a war without end, a war that neither your body or your mind can ever win. So the question becomes, how to you end the suffering?
The only way is to make peace.
It may be that neither side really gets what it wants. Your mind is going to have to live with the fact that your body is never going to look like [insert actor/model here, and plus sized models count]. Your body is going to have to live with the fact that your mind’s inner critic is going to crop up every once in a while. But that’s the reality of peace — it’s not always easy. That’s why it’s called making peace. It takes some work.
So my tip for this week is to actively envision your body and mind making peace. Imagine them coming to the table. Maybe there are some things that need to be hashed out. Perhaps some apologies are in order. And then, imagine both parties committing to peace. Imagine your body and mind living in harmony, in mutual respect and admiration. When discord strikes, practice bringing yourself back into a state of peace. Take a deep breath and envision, hear, and/or feel that state of peace return.
What might happen if you actually practiced holding this place of peace within you? How would you feel? How would relate to others? How might it affect your food choices, your body movement choices, your life choices? Now imagine that everyone around you started to do this. How might it impact the world?
I can’t wait to see.
Golda Poretsky, H.H.C. is a certified holistic health counselor who specializes in empowering plus sized women to own their bodies and their beauty. Go to http://www.bodylovewellness.com/free to get your free download – Golda’s Top Ten Tips For Divine Dining!