If you’ve been in a relationship for a little while, you may notice that sometimes it can be hard to dedicate proper time (whatever that means and however that looks to you) to your sex life from your life-life.
And truthfully, that’s the main thing we struggle with. From early on in our relationship, we’ve been able to communicate with each other about everything (sex-related and otherwise) pretty easily, and when we have sex, well, no complaints there.
But on Friday morning, while getting ready for work, we found ourselves having this discussion:
Future Mr. paperispatient: So when is your crochet class again?
paperispatient: Sunday afternoon – that’s when you’ll be at band practice, right?
Future Mr. paperispatient: No, band practice is in the evening. I have some time Saturday morning and Saturday night.
paperispatient: Saturday morning I have to go to the bank to deposit this check so I can pay my credit card bill and then I have Zumba. And I work at my other job from 7-11 in the evening, and after that…I’ma just want to go to sleep.
Future Mr. paperispatient: Monday night?
paperispatient: I have a meeting at work until 8, and then we need to write this week’s Frisky post! Hmm…
And we don’t even have college or kids to complicate things even more! If lots of different articles and advice column entries are to be believed (most of which, from our Googlings, put a sexist spin on the matter, which is why we’re not linking to any of them), we’re far from the only couple for whom this is an issue.
So, what do you do?
We wanted to raise the question this week in the hopes that some of you could relate and might have some suggestions, either things that have worked for you or things that totally haven’t; you can share them in the comments or via our e-mail or Ask Us message, if you’d prefer to be anonymous. In next week’s post we’ll discuss some approaches that help us keep sex (and our relationship, period) a priority without sacrificing important activities like sleeping, going to work, and watching Star Trek (TNG FTW!), and we’ll share some suggestions about how to balance your needs with your and your partner’s collective needs.
Keep the great questions coming! (Hee.) Got a question to ask, subject you’d like us to discuss, or myth you’d like us to bust? You can e-mail us at FriskyFeminist@persephonemagazine.com or send us an anonymous message via the spiffy, new Ask Us! feature here.