No matter how content you are to be by yourself, at some point you are going to want to go on a date. Why? Dating is, on occasion, really, really fun. You get to dress up and hopefully get some smoochies at the end of the night. As a single lady, I’ve had some experience getting a date. Allow me to share.
I have a love-hate relationship with online dating. On the one hand, I have met one short-term and one long-term boyfriend online. On the other hand, the selection I see and messaging I’ve enjoyed can be downright horrifying. There was the one guy who spent a full paragraph describing how he had to sleep on the left side of the bed, and then there was the other guy who decided he’d use every move from derailing for dummies once I mentioned my feminism. Of course, I could meet jerks at the bar, too.
The key to online dating is to just approach it with a sense of fun. It’s like being in a bar where everyone is single, so it’s okay to flirt as much as you want. There are some true dogs, but there are also a few foxy options, too. Don’t go trying to find Mr. or Ms. Right. Just approach it as looking for someone with whom to have coffee.
Meeting Someone in the real world
To be perfectly honest, I prefer meeting potential dates in the real world because there is no way to tell if there will be physical chemistry with someone online. I have had some success meeting dates in the following situations:
Go to places by yourself: Having a wing-woman is so overrated. Go to shows, museums, the grocery store, whatever, by yourself. You’re much more approachable when you’re on your own. Shows are great because you automatically have something to talk about with someone. I will also reveal my secret for the greatest pick-up line ever, which is “Can I buy you a beer and talk to you for 5 minutes?” Works every time!
Join Groups: No, you’re not going to find a date at these groups, but you are going to have fun, get out of the house, and meet people who have single friends to whom they’ll introduce you when you get invited to a party (which you will attend by yourself!).
Family/Friends: This is always tricky in case it doesn’t work out. It’s a bit like online dating in that you meet people with whom you might not necessarily have chemistry, but there’s also less pressure to date that person if you don’t. Plus, you already like your friends and family (hopefully) and they probably know people with whom you have things in common.
How have you found dates? Share your stories in the comments.