I’ve got change on the brain these days, friends. And I’ll be honest with you, it’s messing my shit up.
There are a lot of things I am great at. I tell stories well. I bake a kickass dessert. I can nap like a champ. But I freaking fall apart when things change, good or bad. I just can’t deal. And that brings me to today’s LTP: Do you embrace change (turn and face the strange) or do you curl up in a fetal position hoping that everything will go back to your comfortable rut, like I do? Tell me about your flexible side! Or let me know I’m not alone!
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I fucking hate change. I try to keep my head down and roll with it, like any crisis, but on the inside I am a ball of anxiety, doubt, cynicism and misdirected rage. Even if I know it’s a good thing to change, even if I know there will be a positive experience/reward/state-of-being at the end.
I hate change; it stresses me out. At least in my personal life/environment; there are plenty of things in the larger world that need to change. But anything I have to deal with? Not so much.
If I’m the one steering the change, I’m golden. I feel empowered and in charge. If the change is out of my control, I shut down. That probably says a lot about me.
I’m usually OK during the change, because there’s so much to do, but after things have finished changing I get all antsy (and sometimes tearfully angry) because everything is different and I don’t like it. Before long, I get used to the way things are now and different becomes the new same.
Thank you so much for your honesty! Let’s be honest … change hurts!!! In spite of that, I have to confess I’m one of those freaks of nature who actually thrives on change, up to a point. I get bored when things are always the same, so having some (minor) change thrown into the mix helps keep me fresh and helps keep the creative juices flowing. I deal with huge changes, such as changing jobs or moving cross-country, better than I deal with minor changes because I view them as fun-even if the event that caused the change wasn’t a positive one. I don’t deal with minor changes, such as having to drive a different route to work, change hair stylists, change my eating habits, etc., do sometimes annoy me, but I get beyond them as viewing them as a challenge to be “conquered.” I love the victory of “winning” a victory over a challenge, so this perspective helps me cope. The other thing I’ve learned through the years is that we tend to expect changes to be far more horrific than they actually are. If I’m confronted with a change that tempts me to get upset, remembering what I’ve learned in the past helps me calm down.