In previous years, I’ve been that person who either rolls her eyes at making resolutions, or I’ve been gung ho in the cliche resolution camp. I want to lose 50 pounds, write a novel, and travel to Europe! Great! Let’s go!
This year, I say fuck that, not only to resolutions that are divorced from my true sense of self, but also to the refusal to assess where I am, recalibrate, and set forth with new goals in mind. If the world’s going to end this year, or if we’re just (more likely) moving into a time without the guidance of the Mayan calendar with us, I want to be prepared to move thoughtfully in the direction of what’s important.
If your year in 2011 was anything like the year most of the people I know had, it was hard as shit but came out very slightly better than it began. I want to continue that generally upward trend this next year, first by renewing my own commitment to my health. I want to eat delicious food that nourishes my body, and eat plenty of it. I want to physically move my body in ways I find invigorating and restorative. I want to sleep plenty, breathe deeply, check in on some minor medical issues instead of postponing them. I want to have plenty of sex, find positive measures of stress relief, and enjoy the sunshine when it’s out. I want to make sure I walk my dog daily and talk to family. In short, I want to be healthy.
I also want to give back to the communities that have sustained me through the rough patches. I want to support my local library, with donations or volunteer hours or whatever means I can find to reasonably give to them. I want to invest in explicit, intentional acts of kindness to the people I encounter everyday: coworkers, baristas, bus drivers, whatever. I want to spend my money in meaningful ways, not the least of which would be buying gifts for my friends from other, entrepreneurial friends. I have a friend who sells incredible organic, herbal teas. I have another friend who sells hand-stitched home decor and eco-friendly dryer sachets. One of the editors here at Persephone is a glass artisan and is working on setting up her own online shop. I know amazing, creative, motivated, ambitious people with wonderful things to share with the world. I want to spend my money, which I believe is a form of energy, supporting their work.
In 2012, I’m also getting married, and I have long been dreading the family dynamics, financial drain, and emotional stresses that seem to arise naturally around weddings. At least, most of the ones I’ve attended in the past. For mine, I’m resolving: none of that. We’ve planned ahead and given ourselves plenty of time that our wedding should not be a dramatically stressful situation financially. We are making a concerted effort to communicate to our loved ones how important their feelings are to us, and have asked for their input to make the event a positive one for them, too. I’m resolving to act with respect, listen before speaking, keep calm, and enjoy the shit out of my wedding day. Come to that, it’s not a bad way to interact with family all year round.
Finally, I resolve to spend more time on the things that bring me pleasure (my relationship with the dude, working here on this site with all of you amazing people, reading the shit out of a ton of books, playing tug-o-war with my dog, cooking up a storm when life is stormy) and less time dwelling on shit that I find mundane or draining. Life’s short anyway, and if the Mayans weren’t just out of calendar space, we’ve only got about twelve months left to make the most of it. I intend to.
Regardless of the timing, do you have intentions and resolutions for your upcoming days? Or, have you made any recently? Tell me about them in the comments.