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2012 Sexy-Times Challenge: Weekly Orgasms

I’m not usually the one around here who talks about this, but I need to, right now. See, there’s been a lot of talk around these parts about taking care of yourself, and we’re (as a site) pretty open about talking about sex. (Thank you, Papers-are-Patient! Ms. Vagina Science! Awkwardette! Others!) But today I’m here to propose the kind of New Year’s Resolution that I don’t think anyone, from the abstinent Christian to the body-positive Health at Every Size-ers, could possibly object to on practical grounds.

I am proposing orgasms for everyone.

Brightly colored fireworks against a night sky.
Your mileage may vary.

Now, I totally get if you’re not partnered and I even get if you are not a sex-haver, but everyone in the world loves an orgasm. The beautiful thing is, you don’t need a partner to achieve one. (For some of you, it might be easier to achieve one without a partner.)

But here’s the challenge: I want each and every one of you to commit to having an orgasm, by your own efforts or by those of someone else, whatever your fancy, every week (minimum) for the next 52 weeks.

For me, this really is a challenge. Not because I don’t enjoy intimacy with my partner, but because sometimes it’s hard to fit it in, between my issues and his work schedule. (I’m being frank, and this is uncomfortable for me, so bear with me.) But I still think it’s possible. And if anything I think it’s even more possible for the single gals out there.

Does this mean partnered ladies can’t take care of themselves? Nope. If that’s the way you want to (or need to) achieve orgasm during the challenge, go for it. But one way or another, I think everyone reading this site should come at least 52 times this year.

More, if possible. But 52 is the goal.

We’ll be updating occasionally with the painfully honest trials and tribulations of achieving the big O throughout the year. I promise to be perfectly honest and not too TMI-ish.

Who’s with me? I mean, honestly, if this sounds like a cake walk to you, sign up and cheer on those of us to whom this doesn’t always come (har, har) as naturally.

Essentially, this is a challenge for anyone who has ever felt shy about talking about masturbating, a challenge for anyone who’s ever been through a dry spell that felt embarrassingly long, a challenge for anyone who has a tendency to take care of their partner first and more often than not go without themselves. This is a challenge for 2012 to be the Year of the Great Weekly Orgasm.

By Meghan Young Krogh

Meghan had a number of quality writing mentors over the course of her education, which just goes to show that you can't blame the teacher for the way the student turns out. Team Oxford Comma represent.

25 replies on “2012 Sexy-Times Challenge: Weekly Orgasms”

I’ve been reading Persephone for a long time but only recently joined. I’m totally in for this! I like to make sure I enjoy sexy times (by myself, no partner for now!) on a regular basis, but when work piles up or is stressful, I sometimes go for too long without making sure I spend some time on myself. Stress is not helpful for the libido… and I’m a constant high-stress person!

This may be sharing too much, but I didn’t have any kind of orgasm until I was about 21. It was frustrating as hell for many, many years.  I’d tried masturbating in all imaginable ways, I’d read books (“Our Bodies Ourselves,” “How To Have An Orgasm Whenever You Want”, etc.), I’d used every possible toy that my budget and imagination could allow, I fantasized, I watched erotic movies and read erotic stories and lit candles and took warm baths with handheld sprayers and got massages and played sexy music and all that stuff. Nada, every freaking time. What was supposed to be self-pleasure time always ended up in feelings of inadequacy, freakishness, failure, depression, hopelessness, shame, defectiveness. Awfulness.

So I just wanted to speak up for the non-orgasmics among us and say, if you are not able to have an orgasm, don’t beat yourself up or feel extra-bad if you’re literally unable to attempt them once a week. Apparently there are a lot of us, but it’s not something one readily admits to. Please know that you’re not alone.

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