Lunchtime Poll

Lunchtime Poll: G[ay]alentine’s Day!

Happy Galentine’s Day! I am not above dedicating an entire Lunchtime Poll to a Parks and Recreation joke, but we’ll explain behind the cut. Plus: tell us about your bestest gal pals!


For folks who aren’t Parks and Recreation watchers, Galentine’s Day is every February 13th, and is a day to tell your ladyfriends how much you appreciate them and care about them. Awesome, right? In this weekend’s open thread, Alex suggested an amendment that’s more inclusive of our not-lady-friends who would still like to be included, and call it “Gayalentine’s Day,” a suggestion I can totally get behind. So, in honor of your bffs, in the comments, I’d love to hear your stories about your best friends, what makes them remarkable & special, and you know, feel free to dedicate a Whitney song to them in honor of the late great gal herself. Feel free to share pictures of you and your BFF, and generally make it a love-fest up in here.

By Meghan Young Krogh

Meghan had a number of quality writing mentors over the course of her education, which just goes to show that you can't blame the teacher for the way the student turns out. Team Oxford Comma represent.

36 replies on “Lunchtime Poll: G[ay]alentine’s Day!”

I’ve known my best friend since I was seven, and after fifteen years of friendship we’re still going strong! I think we’ve only had like two fights ever, and she’s been there for me through a lot of really horrible things. We’re roomies, so several times a week we hang out in the living room with my dogs and catch up on our television shows and eat junk food. Sometimes we even go out for the junk food! Those are the times I wouldn’t trade for anything. My other best friend is actually a guy that I’ve been friends with for six years now, and I love him to death as well, though I don’t get to see him as much as I’d like. The three of us together are indestructible, and I can’t imagine being without them. I have to shut up now, because I’m gonna start getting teary in class!

I don’t have best friends. Oh, to be a downer. I just feel that I’m never enough for someone else and too lax and traumatized to change it? But I enjoy the time I spend with the friends I have, and it always feels nice to hear them say that I’m leaving too soon or that it doesn’t matter if I’m acting like a grump because they know it’s me.

My online me knows the coolest people though. I have friends to talk about celebrity gossip, friends to go to the cinema with, friends who will listen to bleating of my down self .. it’s amazing. Sometimes the Internet can give you the crop of the ..uh.. field? What’s the saying?

Most of my best friends are actually dudes, but my best female friend (and oldest friend, period) is someone I’ve literally known her entire life. Our parents were friends before any of them were even married. We were pretty much forced to hang out together when we were little, so it’s a good thing we got along. We always shared a lot of the same nerdy obsessions (mostly Harry Potter and broadway musicals), although she still likes to give me shit for not knowing anything about sports. And we’re even closer now than we used to be, since we went to the same high school and are now at the same college.

I sorely miss my girlfriends :( We are no longer as close as we were, and I no longer know if this can be remedied. Still, I remember the extraordinary times we had together – we just got each other, every time.

Awe! This makes me feel so warm and cuddly! I miss my gal pals daily as I’m an expat. Olga, Amanda, Katie and Courtney all bring something special and unique to my life. Olga is the most thoughtful person and her generosity is inspiring; Amanda is really considered and she is always giving me new ways to look at things; Katie is the kindest person I’ve ever known–the girl keeps sack lunches in her car so that she can give them to bums whenever she sees one! And Courtney is my extreme adventure mate whom I can share all of my travels and thoughts on culture with and she gets it. I miss all of them so much!

In terms of besties I have two, a gal I met in undergrad who it pretty much my personality doppelganger as well as my  actual doppelganger and another gal whom I randomly met in the lobby of a musicology conference who ended up moving to Toronto for her dissertation research. Recently they met eachother when my friend from undergrad was here visiting (they were sort of curious about eachother) and although I was a bit worried it would be like Bridesmaids it was actually the most awesome hangout time ever, we baked pecan pie, drank red wine, talked about everything ever, and stayed up till four and got korean food.

My BFF has been my best friend since 3rd grade. Our bus routes got changed, and so I was put onto her bus. We’ve been friends since. We drifted apart a little in high school, but came back, and we are very close to each other. She is smazing (super + amazing) and sawesome (super + awesome)!! :D My mom still calls us the “giggle girls” because we laugh so much around each other. She’s awesome. That is all. :D

I met BFF on the first day of 8th grade. We had moved at the end on 7th, so I was starting over at new school. I was terrified. She was kind enough to let me sit next to her in typing class and the rest is history. We’ve survived so much together, including an apartment in college. She’s played a huge part in who I am today and since she lives something like 2800 miles away, I miss her so much!

My BFF is a straight dude, but I can still include him, yeah? Even though he’s not a gal? That’s just how a roll. He was my “maid of honor,” he lives in Boston and works on computers, and he has no problem scribbling French poetry while listening to me rant about an idea or argument I encountered that made zero sense.

Even though we don’t talk as often as I would like anymore (distance!), I know that we could still go get a cup of coffee and spend the evening reading while listening to his crazy guitar music and nothing would feel different.

I dun have pics of the guy because he shrinks from cameras and would NOT want his pics posted anywhere for anyone to see. Instead, here is a pic of a teddy bear.


I have several BFFs.

My BFF Angie and I have known each other since she was 11 and I was 13, and her dad hired me to babysit her little brother and sister.  She stood by me when I got my first boyfriend, who turned out to be about as worthless as a burnt out stump. She stood by me during my unfortunate goth phase, my unfortunate hippie phase and my unfortunate-but-still-a-lot-of-fun slutty phase. She saved my wedding. She offered to make gold leaf tampon dolls with me after my hysterectomy. She dropped everything and came 800 miles for my mom’s funeral. She’s everything good and right and wonderful with the world, and I couldn’t imagine life being nearly as fantastic without her.

I AM sending out a Whitney song to her. I don’t know if she remembers this, but one night at one of our many slumber parties, she and I stayed up super late talking and playing music, and we had SO MUCH FUN with this song.

Sally J. (OUR Sally J.) is another BFF. She was my college roommate, and probably the person I’ve had the most adventures with. She’s smart, hilarious, goofy and practical all at the same time, and I’ve never met anyone like her. Helping start this thing is just the icing on the cake.

Even though I didn’t know most of our team before P*mag, they’ve all become my BFFs in the past year. Just look at these women! LOOK AT THEM. THEY ARE AMAZING. CAPSY AMAZING. (I do have a special place in my heart for @pileofmonkeys, because we’re both sarcastic, workaholic, weirdo women who get obsessed with things like dancing Oods.) This video is for them, and it’s only a little tiny bit tongue in cheek.


I wanted to plan a Galentine’s Day Brunch for some of my friends, but I didn’t get around to getting plans together. I’ve been realizing recently how lucky I am to have an amazing group of gals (and guys) around me. From my old school BFF and de facto little sister Kristin, to my newish BFF Kim who I’m so lucky to have gotten to know better in the past year or so, to my guy BFF Adam who’s been there for me through thick and thin and introduced me to my husband, I’ve got some great people in my life.

I just wrote a post about my bff, but outside of handling my chronic disease like an effin’ pro, my bffs are  pretty fabulous. I grew up without a close friend so when I met M’Celery in college (in French class!), we bonded over eating cheese for breakfast and our disdain for our teacher. My other bff, Monstargh, and I met when I was (friendly) hanging out with her ex. I went to a party with him and when Monstargh ran up and gave me a hug and said she was so glad to meet me, I freaked the eff out and presumed I’d entirely misread my friendship with ehr ex. She still teases me about my inability to hug anyone but her. Also, she gives THE BEST hugs.

I live far from both of them now, and I most appreciate the way that they don’t take my silence as lack of affection and they way that we communicate that there’s never a closed door.

I wish I could have a Galentine’s Day with them.

I know that at times I can be a difficult friend to have so I’m grateful for the ones who love me anyway.

My two BFFs include a woman and a man (who isn’t gay but I can’t talk about BFFs without mentioning him).  They are the family I choose.



BAHAHAHAHA I can’t believe this got included! My best friend and I are here as we speak Gayalentinesing with the best of them. This means oregano baked beans and Marlon Brando.

I am literally still lmaoing that you guys ran with that. Amazing! xD

PS: In the spirit, I should mention she’s my best friend because of her audacity and her amazing ability to brush off what ails us. Julia, you rock.

This entire post was created for your ego fodder, I’m on to you.

Because there’s no way you didn’t know that I would post about you. YEW. ALL ABOUT YEW.

/flails at the thought of Meghan

You’re just so awesome, love. I wish I could write more, but work is a’callin.

<3 Hearts for you!


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