Within the close circle of people I love, there have been dozens (literally) of pretty life-altering, somewhat tragic circumstances happening lately. Deaths in the family, serious illnesses, financial catastrophes, long-term relationships breaking up, heartbreak left and right. The gods are cruel.
Anyway, I believe strongly in feeding grief. It’s how I was raised, and it’s how I know what to do when things go badly. But most of my close circle lives, geographically, scattered to the wind these days. From previous conversations here about friendship, I know that’s true for many of you. Which brings us to today’s Lunchtime Poll.
How do you support your friends’ grief when you are not able to be there physically for them? Do you send gift baskets? Flowers (as a good friend of mine did for me last week when I had my teeth drilled into)? Do you send a card, an email, make a phone call?
And maybe more importantly, do you ever get over the feeling that you’re a little helpless when you’re so far away from the person who’s struggling?