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The Great Orgasm Challenge: Shark Week Edition

For those of you who are just tuning in recently, we challenged all Persephoneers to a 52-orgasms-in-2012 goal. For some readers, that’s a piece of cake. For others, it’ll take some real effort. Some of you are doing it in monogamous partnerships, some are flying solo, some are getting it on with and without other people. Whatever the case may be, we welcome you. And I want to ask you about sex on your period.

See, okay, I’m not personally on my period. I’m actually missing it for quite some time. But I know it’s an issue I’ll face again, someday! And I know it’s an issue a lot of you deal with. So, tell me: for you, personally, is sex on your period:

a) no big deal
b) kinda squicky but something you deal with via shower sex/sex on towels/some other mitigating factor
or c) I’ll be in my Red Tent, see you in a week.

For me it was started somewhere between b and c, but I’ve kind of gotten over it as I’ve gotten older and now I’m somewhere between b and a (I’ll put a towel down if I remember…)

Also: how’s that challenge coming, folks?

By Meghan Young Krogh

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33 replies on “The Great Orgasm Challenge: Shark Week Edition”

The first couple days sex is a big no-no, because I have a heavy flow and it’s a messy thing and it kind of squicks me out.  I’m starting to open up to sex later in my period though, when I have a lighter flow and things aren’t as messy/gross.  This is becoming important, because (and I realize it’s kind of obnoxious to say this) going without sex for five days makes me CRANKY.

My bf is much -much- more relaxed about it, so I erm.. am growing into it, but still do the top days without touch. It’s not so much about the blood, but more about the night pads making me feel like I’m wearing a diaper. I don’t want to wear a diaper in front of my boyfriend.

Definitely (a). That said, I don’t generally have very clotty, or painful periods (pill FTW) so I probably wouldn’t in those circumstances, but otherwise it’s all systems go and someone grab a dark towel for after. I’ve found cups are better for spontaneity because they can be taken out and re-inserted whenever (unlike tampons), plus they keep things a lot cleaner than a pad.

/menstrual cup mafia broadcast.

So I have had no partner with whom to test it out, but considering how low my interest is for any sexy times around my period, I would expect I wouldn’t be too interested. But I would still convince myself to try, if I could get past the pain (super sensitive down there, sometimes even sore), in addition to extreme fatigue (I could sleep all day) and occasional migraines. Any exercise tends to make the pain worse, and I’m going to the doctor soon to get checked out ’cause I think there’s something weird going on with the pain and all… suffice it to say, I’m probably going to avoid it for now!

okay okay okay, I don’t want to sound braggy but I had a first this past week.  Three orgasms during one block of sexy time.  (Eeep!)

Now for sex on periods.  My SO is really really REALLY squeamish.  So it rarely happens and when it does he runs to the shower with his eyes closed while I roll my eyes.  As for me, it doesn’t bother me but I generally don’t even like to be touched when I’m flowing down there.  It’s like my skin is extra sensitive.  I don’t want hugs.  I don’t want to cuddle.  I don’t even want you to touch my arm.  Just…no.  Needless to say, it works out.

C, for the “feeling sensitive in a bad way” reason someone mentioned already. Sore, even. And also, I’ve found I get punished for every period orgasm with bleeding at least a day longer than I would normally expect to afterwards. Do not want.

I swear! Furthermore, it sneakily retimes itself to collide with pretty much any plane ride I have to take, too.

Jokes aside, I’m assuming it’s to do with increased bloodflow to the general area. Don’t other people get that?

BF and I are in the a) camp. I’m usually not down for it the first day into shark week since I’m usually unhappy and in pain, but after that, if we want to go at it, we just…go at it. We mitigate in a sense, cause we wash off and sometimes we put towels down if we’re worried about staining, but we just don’t care about it.

The only problem is, there’s sometimes a lot more need for lube.

No period sex here. For a variety of reasons. First of them being that I tend to be more sensitive (and not necessarily in a good way). I’m sure I recall that orgasms are good for cramps, but no, I’d rather take the heat pad and painkillers. Also, not to put too fine a point on it, when there are kids about, sex needs to be something that can be stopped immediately and covers thrown back on etc, so anything with the potential to be “messy” is a no go, for us anyway.

I’m on the fence about how I would react (cuz you really don’t know until it happens but I’m not at all sure I would want it to happen …my periods are very short – like 3 days – and I’m thankful for that, but I feel messy so …no) but THEORETICALLY I’d be probably end up too busy laughing my head off for any sex to occur for a while.

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