I am pissed.
I am pissed because I have heard for my entire life that Christianity is all about love and forgiveness, that Jesus was full of compassion, that when we ask ourselves What Jesus Would Do, we are trying to find the best parts of ourselves and put them forward.
And now, an amendment added to the North Carolina constitution that defines marriage as one man and one woman. But you know what? Jesus wouldn’t rewrite a fucking constitution to make sure that some people got to live with certain benefits and others did not. Not the Jesus from my learnings.
U.S. Roman Catholic bishops contend that “a same-sex union contradicts the nature of marriage: It is not based on the natural complementarity of male and female; it cannot cooperate with God to create new life; and the natural purpose of sexual union cannot be achieved by a same-sex union. Persons in same-sex unions cannot enter into a true conjugal union. Therefore, it is wrong to equate their relationship to a marriage.” The Southern Baptist Convention claims that extending marriage rights to same-sex couples would undercut the conventional purpose of marriage. Other religious opponents of same-sex marriage hold that same-sex relationships should not be recognized as marriages on the grounds that same-gender sexual activity is contrary to God’s will, is unnatural, and subverts God’s creative intent for human sexuality.
I don’t give a rat’s ass about whether people think same-sex marriage would ruin marriage for everybody else. I don’t care, not even one bit, if two people of the same sex getting married is offensive to a bishop or a priest. I do care that my dear friend in North Carolina, pregnant with her first child, chose to work in a company that would give her partner benefits, and now North Carolina is striking down those rights.
And I’m pissed.
If God doesn’t want people of the same sex to be married, churches should refuse to perform ceremonies. And that is the extent of it. The legal partnership that is entered into by two people – the marriage certificate and the tax benefits and the health insurance coverage and all of that jazz – that has nothing to do with God. Nothing.
If “God hates fags,” God can go ahead and let them know that. God doesn’t need an amendment to strengthen His position. The Christian God is all-powerful and all-knowing, and if His schtick is that he wants gay people to burn in Hell forever, what does He care about health insurance benefits?
The religious grounds that are being used make no sense at all. Nobody is making an amendment enforcing the honoring of my mother and father, and nobody is going to jail for taking the lord’s name in vain. Adulterers and people who covet their neighbor’s wives get to have the same tax benefits as everybody else. There are no amendments enforcing discrimination against those who have not accepted Jesus into their hearts. To suggest such things would be absurd.
The U.S. Constitution protects our right to be heretics, when it gives us freedom of speech and freedom of religion. And yet people think that this one aspect of Christianity should be written into the fabric of the law?
Give me a fucking break.
Anybody who says that same-sex marriage should be banned on religious grounds is a liar. Unless they are willing to live in a Taliban-like state, wherein the law of the land is based on the main religious book (which would include, among other things, quite a bit of stoning), they are lying. They are choosing to hide behind religion as a way to enforce their own hatred and fear, because otherwise they would be up in arms about all sorts of things, including the fact that people are allowed to be up in arms (turn the other cheek, anyone?).
The constitution protects us from religious doctrine. Each individual person gets to decide for themselves whether the religious doctrine is something that they want to accept; the strength of religion lies in this very fact.
What would Jesus do? He’d probably tell you to stop judging, lest you be judged. He’d probably tell you to love thy neighbor as you love thyself. He’d probably tell you to do unto others as you’d have them do unto you.
I can’t say for sure, though, because I don’t feel comfortable acting as Jesus’ mouthpiece. Unlike the voters in North Carolina.