Hey, Dr. Laura, what do you think of chivalry? Oh, right, it’s the best thing ever and feminists ruin everything. This week’s drivel comes from her blog.
Dr. Laura: “Now first off, I want to make it perfectly clear that I think there is absolutely nothing wrong with women having equal opportunities. If they have the ability, then the opportunity should not be closed to them. That goes for everything – gender, race…whatever. If you have the ability, you should not be denied the opportunity. That’s basic civil rights, and I am very big on that. All I’m saying is that women shouldn’t automatically have the opportunity just because they are females. “
Dr. Susan: No, Dr. Laura, this is a lie. I mean, even if it were the truth, it would be problematic, but it is a lie. Your fundamental belief system is based on the idea that women should a) have children, b) take care of their husbands, and c) not work. She derides working mothers, and is constantly defining women by the men in their lives. “Equal opportunities” means having a belief in…equal opportunities. If those opportunities are limited to the kitchen, the bedroom, and the delivery room, they are not equal.
“And it’s this feminist attitude that has made respect and admiration between men and women take a nosedive.”
What? What? I mean, what? Is there a citation for this? I know lots of men and lots of women and I respect many of them, and many of them respect me. Even though I am a feminist! Just saying that “feminism = nosediving attitudes” doesn’t make it true.
“Women’s studies programs teach women that when men act graciously, they are attempting to control them and keep them down. They encourage women to be hostile, become major ball-busters, and think they can have babies without men because kids don’t need a daddy. If you listen to them, they say just about every woman is beaten, raped, and cheated out of everything (just read Who Stole Feminism by Christina Hoff Sommers if you think I’m nuts).”
I teach a women’s studies class, and she’s basically right. All I do all day is talk about how I haaaaate men and any woman who isn’t hostile is going to fail the class. Because I love hostility, and did I mention that I hate men?
Except not. Dr. Laura, stop spouting off about things you have no experience with.
“And when these women dress like pigs, talk like pigs, and act like pigs, it is a little demoralizing for men to put them on a pedestal, take them out on dates, and treat them like they’re special. Think about it. Chivalry has to do with respect, and we don’t see women behaving with much dignity when they hook up and have multiple sexual partners.”
Fuck you, Dr. Laura.
“It makes a man feel good to be protecting and taking care of a woman, and it should make a woman feel good to know that a man is being respectful and thoughtful of her.”
You know what else feels good, for men and women? Being respected for the person that you are, not the shape of your crotch. Being taken care of because a person cares, not because that person is one gender and you are another. Having a person be thoughtful because they want to be, not because some set of rules has them act in meaningless ways to prove that they are manly.
“We’ve lost something beautiful and it’s something so essential in a love relationship. If you treat your husband like he’s a man, you’ll get more manly behavior. If you treat your wife like she’s a woman, you will get more womanly behavior. The polarity between men and women actually means something despite what social trends say. I don’t care how big of a feminist you are – we are still hardwired. Women should expect men to provide, protect, nurture, and love them. If they don’t want to allow that, they are going to miss out on a lot.”
The only thing that women “should” do is what feels right to them in their own relationships and their own lives. The same with men. Somebody opening a door for me because they think they should is not love, it is not beautiful, it is not meaningful – it is habit.
So if what you are saying is that my life is passing me by because I am unwilling to accept habit as a proxy for real relationships and real thoughts and real feelings, well, I guess I’m probably sad. After all, that’s what I should be, right? Sad? And I don’t know how to act unless somebody tells me how I should do it, so thank you, Dr. Laura. It’s a pity so many people feel like they can find fulfillment by doing what feels right instead of by following protocol.