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Best of P-Mag: Porn ““ To X or Not to X

I love this piece because it asks questions about something that most of us have conflicted feelings on. I love pron! I hate money shots! Buck Angel is awesome! Buck Angel is a dick! Oooh, sex! OOOOOh, thats not sex! Nothing inspires a good, hearty conversation like the place of porn in our culture and Rosa does an amazing job at touching all the points. – Coco Papy

Pornography is the portrayal of explicit sexual subject matters for sexual gratification. Well, that’s the basic definition of porn. But what does that really mean? I have been pondering this for weeks and trying to nail (PUN) down the definition and welp, I can’t.

Let me start by saying that I love porn. I think that erotic satisfaction is one of the most interesting and personal explorations a person can have. We find our turn-ons and attractions in all sorts of ways. I find Daniel Craig to be one of the finest specimens of man to ever grace the planet. I would probably run away with Salma Hayek if she asked me to. I enjoy reading erotica, I love watching two people, regardless of gender, having sex. I don’t have any qualms about partaking in any of that, nor do I begrudge anyone else for whatever turns their crank. I originally wanted to write a post about porn and those who enjoy it, but the more I tried to crack this open, the more complicated it became.

So here’s the $250,000 question; if the images, reading materials, films, whatever medium, are clearly racist, misogynistic, or clearly hetero-centered, are they bad? Initially, I would say yes, but the more I research this, the more confused I get. If a man wants to watch a man jerk-off to a woman’s face and neck, so be it, right? Except many interpret that scenario sexist and places the woman in an inferior position and if that is the case, does that make the male viewer sexist? Furthermore, is the woman in that scenario contributing to her own exploitation by allowing a man to cum on her face?

I wonder if we’re less concerned with the acts of pornography, but more with their intent, the awareness of the purveyor, or lack thereof, and what all of this means. Sex and related acts don’t exist in a vacuum. It’s easy to say two consenting adults can do whatever they want, but images, words, and portrayals have impacts on society at large. Human beings have sex for pleasure, intimacy and bonding, not just for procreation, so sex is a multi-tiered experience that affects its participants. Therefore, if a woman in pornography is portrayed as simply a hole that a man can stick his penis in, with no concern to her pleasure or safety or interests, we’re making a broader statement to our cares for women and their roles in society.

With that, I am going to write a series of posts about porn; one personal and about my interests, one interviewing a man who runs a porn Tumblr, and several discussing pornography and society.

So, Persephone readers, I open the floor to you, do you enjoy pornography? Let those fingers fly and this should be a fun journey.

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