Sigh. I miss Tom and Donna when Parks and Rec is on hiatus.
Those two created one of the most awesome things to copycat in real life– Treat Yo’ Self Day. A day to pamper, preen, shop, and bask in general luxuriousness. Who doesn’t want to do that every so often? While a whole day of rest and relaxation may not be in the cards, we’ve all been working our booties off this month and deserve something for our collective stick-to-it-ive-ness. Even if you haven’t been doing the fitness challenge, I bet you’ve been doing something stressful or strenuous or soul-deflating enough to deserve a pick-me-up, haven’t you?
Rewarding ourselves for a job well done is something we don’t do enough. I had never really been one to focus on “self care” until I went through my Sexual Assault/Domestic Violence Advocate training last summer. Self care is something they focus on quite a bit because the nature of the work can take an incredible toll on one’s emotional well-being. I have definitely been more mindful of the need for it, and it really can make a difference in your mood and general outlook. It can be something as big as a spa day or as small as a bottle of nail polish. The main thing is to make a point to tell yourself “I am buying/doing x to reward myself for doing y.” Instead of idly dropping cash on something, connect it to a specific task or event that made you feel proud, accomplished, or about to reach the end of your rope and you made it through. I don’t know why it makes it feel different, but somehow it does. Every time I use what I’ve purchased, I think, “Oh, this is that thing I bought myself for being hella awesome that day/week/month,” and it makes me feel a little warm and fuzzy inside.
BUT! While it is awesome to make a resolution and stick to it, sometimes it isn’t the easiest thing in the world to keep to. There is a reason New Year’s resolutions are a running joke, and often times it is because people make grand, sweeping declarations about losing 50 pounds, cutting out all sugar, quitting smoking cold turkey, or doing a specific workout five days a week (ahem), thinking that setting a big goal will make them stick to it. Then the reality of how hard those things are when real life kicks back in causes people to falter and lose hope and then give up all together. Losing weight in a healthy way takes a long damn time, sugar is freaking delicious, smoking is also awesome if you’re a smoker, and working out five days a week is not always going to happen. Instead of beating ourselves up when we make missteps along the way, we need to start allowing ourselves the room to fuck up once in awhile (or more often than that, because that is still okay because I said so!) without beating ourselves up about or giving up completely. Still set big goals, sure; that is the way to keep plugging along in this world, but set mini goals within those and allow yourself room for error. This is my long-winded way of saying I didn’t meet my goal of five workouts this week. I could list all the reasons why, but it doesn’t matter. I didn’t, I can’t change it, but I will do better this week, this final week of the fitness challenge.
This is the last week for prize entries, so comment it up, folks!