Lunchtime Poll

Lunchtime Poll: Public Crying

I read somewhere that you don’t really feel like you’re a New Yorker until you’ve cried on the subway. It might have been somewhere more “high-brow,” but I’m almost willing to bet it was a tumblr post.

Have you ever cried in public? Do you feel liberated by public tears, or embarrassed by it? Do you hardcore sob to movies like I did throughout Gravity?

A gif from the film "Gravity."

By Karishma

Karishma is a twenty-something living in New York City and is trying her hardest to live out every cliche about Millennials. This involves eating her feelings, drowning in debt and mocking infomercials. She likes sociology so much that she has two degrees in it, and is still warding off her parents' questions about a real career.

8 replies on “Lunchtime Poll: Public Crying”

UGH-I HATE crying in public. Actually, I hate crying in general, unless it was caused by a good book or something like that. That kind of crying can feel good. But otherwise, if I’m crying it’s because something crappy happened and/or I’ve lost control and the crying just happens. But, if I HAD to cry in public, I’d probably choose the subway, surrounded by strangers, over someplace where I know people or where someone might ask me what’s wrong.

I typically don’t cry in public and, if I really can’t help it, I tend to hide away somewhere or hide my face. I think the last time I cried on a bus was after a close family member passed away. But, I do cry in front of people I know, and I’m a sympathetic crier. If someone else around me starts crying, chances are I’ll start crying or feel the urge to cry.

The day after our wedding my husband and I were on our way to our honeymoon destination. While flying over middle America I watched Cloud Atlas and cried and cried and cried. The flight attendants were a little concerned. I think it was the combination of my relief of the big wedding thing being over and happiness of being married and in love and the movie being beautiful and moving me in the same way The Fountain did.

That quote is from How I Met Your Mother.

And I am a total crybaby at movies. The first 20 minutes of Up? Forget it. It killed me. Sometimes I’ll be reading a book in public that makes me cry.

As long as it’s media, I’m not embarrassed. I find it liberating and cathartic. If something personal is bothering me, I’m mortified if I let it show.

If we’re talking about crying on the street or in front of people: not if I can help it. I was taught at a young age to keep a stiff upper lip and the subtext is that crying = weakness.

Crying at the movies is different and though it doesn’t happen often, there are times you just have to let them flow. Please see: Up, Toy Story 3 and Les Mis. The last one had me bawling my eyes out in a South Korean movie theater and the older Korean lady sitting next to me handed me a tissue.

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