Etiquette: Gift Registry Edition

Registering for gifts is a really fun activity that you get to do only a few times in your life, so you may as well do it with class!

I’ve said before that I am unsure about gift registries. On the one hand, it’s like you’re saying, “Buy these things for me right now!” but on the other hand, it can be a nice way to point family and friends in the direction of things you need/desire in a socially acceptable way. So, you know. Registries. They exist. I will comment no more on how I feel about them.

Rather, this short post will discuss how to use registries without looking like a spoiled jerk who doesn’t care about other people’s feelings. Or, rather, how to be a person that other people don’t hate.

  1. Register at more than one place. Look, not everyone can afford the fine china section at Macy’s, and some of us don’t have a Target within 50 miles. Try to register at a couple of places that have different price levels, different geographical locations, or at least have a great internet shipping option.
  2. But really, don’t register at too many places. It’s greedy and grasping. Three should suffice. Really.
  3. Don’t put where you registered on the invites! This is a REGISTRY SIN. It is BAD MANNERS. First of all, everyone registers at more or less the same places, so your registry will be located through a couple quick internet searches. Second, the correct path is to tell a close friend or family member and let them filter the word through the circles. I guarantee you, the truth will out when it comes to your registry. And having all the little registry cards fall out of your invitation? Tacky.
  4. Please don’t duplicate. If you register for a Diaper Genie at Bed, Bath, and Beyond, please don’t register for it at Babies “R” Us, too. It’s a surefire way to get duplicates at the shower, which you then have to deal with.
  5. If you do get duplicates, someone gets you something you don’t like, etc. Receive the item graciously. Do NOT be snotty about this. Someone got you a gift. Say, “Thank You,” just like your momma taught you. Then return if you can, and donate or re-gift it if you can’t. And, don’t mention what you end up doing. And, for the love of God, send a thank you card anyway!

Gift registries. Not hard. Tell your friends.

I need a glass of wine.

By amandamarieg

Amandamarieg is a lawyer who does not work as a lawyer. She once wrote up a plan to take over the world and turned it in as a paper for a college course. She only received an A-, because she forgot that she would need tech geeks to pull off her scheme.

3 replies on “Etiquette: Gift Registry Edition”

I didn’t realize that giving where the couple/momma is registered at was a faux pas. I think all of the invitations I’ve gotten for wedding or baby showers (thrown by family or friends) has listed where they were registered at. (Which makes my life easier because I don’t have to guess where they are registered.)

When I got married, I registered at Taget, Amazon, and Bed Bath & Beyond. I made sure to include things from various price ranges – little kitchen items that were a dollar or two up to the kitchenaid stand mixer and a set of dishes.

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