“Awareness” has gone too far. TOO FAR. And there’s plenty of truly tragic news this week to go along with the shit that’s merely infuriating. But if you can make it through to the end, Jessica Williams will make it all better. (As usual, trigger warnings for pretty much everything apply.)
Mary “Unique” Spears was walking into a relative’s memorial service in Detroit when an unknown man asked her for her name and phone number. She refused to give it to him since she was engaged, but he kept hassling her and eventually hit her. Then he shot her three times, killing her, and wounded four of her relatives and her fiancée when he started firing into the crowd. She had just left a fucking funeral and now she’s dead and her three kids have no mother and all because some guy thought he was entitled to hit on her.
Jamie Lee Martin had a group of people over to drink in her garage when something Elliott William Orsborn said upset her, so she “jokingly slapped [him] across the face.” So he shot her in the forehead and killed her.
All but eight abortion clinics in the entire state of Texas were forced to close last Friday after the Fifth Circuit Court of Appeals overturned the injunction on the TRAP law that places ridiculous and unnecessary restrictions on clinics. The clinics have appealed the decision, but since Justice Scalia oversees the Fifth Circuit, fuck. For women in the Rio Grande valley, that means that getting an abortion could cost well over $1,000, if not more.
The ACLU is suing Alabama because the new process for minors to get abortions without parental request requires them to be basically put on trial, complete with a lawyer for the fetus and character witnesses.
If you’re in Colorado, do not vote for Amendment 67. While it’s disguised as a reaction to a woman who miscarried after an accident caused by a drunk driver, it actually rewrites every state law to grant personhood to fetuses, which could lead to women being prosecuted for abortions, miscarriages, substance abuse, and more.
Jennifer Lawrence finally spoke out about the release of her stolen nude photos.
Wednesday was “Equal Pay Day” for Latinas; based on the average wage gap of $0.56 for each $1 a white man earns, it took a Latina woman from Jan. 1, 2013 until October 8, 2014 to earn white a white man did in 2013 alone.
Good news in New York! Gov. Andrew Cuomo has ordered the 64 campuses in the SUNY system to adopt affirmative consent standards in their sexual assault policies. It could also soon be easier for transgender NYC residents to correct their birth certificates.
Terrible People of the Week
- Stephen Collins, the actor who played Reverend Camden on 7th Heaven, apparently confessed on tape to molesting an 11-year-old year.
- Stephen Tully Dierks, an alt-lit editor who allegedly raped at least two women (and all the alt-lit bros who supported him all along and are now trying to distance themselves since he got caught).
- Elizabeth Ellen, who thought it would be a good idea to break down the case against Dierks (and also statutory rape accusations against author Tao Lin) to explain all the places where she the victims made bad decisions or were exaggering about statutory being a big deal, while also admitting to having molested three younger kids when she was about 9 or 10.
- Reince Priebus, who tried to claim that shutting down abortion clinics showed “compassion” for women dealing with unplanned pregnancy.
- George Will, who’s upset that the Obama administration is “monitoring sex on campuses.” Because they’re investigating schools that are mishandling rape accusations and encouraging college men to not be rapists and to step in if they see someone else assaulting someone. Thanks, Obama!
- Nicholas Sparks, who’s a big old racist anti-Semitic homophobe.
- Mark Gregory, who just finally stepped down as the head of the Williamson County (Tennessee) school board over renewed outrage that he helped make a product called the “Buttleopener,” which is a bottle opener shaped like a (reasonably life-sized) woman’s panty-clad butt with the actual bottle opener in the general vicinity of her vagina. (Pic at the link is possibly NSFW.)
- Marie Claire, for calling child soldiers “inspirational.” Which yes, the Kurdish women who are fighting to protect their people from Assad’s armies are pretty badass, but it’s creepy to post a picture of a 12-year-old girl with a gun as if that’s awesome instead of really sad.
- All the media outlets that are focusing on Mayang Prasetyo being trans and a sex worker and digging up bikini pictures of her instead of treating the murder victim with any sort of respect.
- Annie Lennox, for being the latest white person to try to criticize Beyoncé’s feminism.
- Susan G. Komen for the Cure, because ARE YOU FRAKKING KIDDING ME???? (Ed. Friends, the time has come to just embrace the fact that we live in an absurdist parallel reality. Into the crevasse!)
— Salon (@Salon) October 8, 2014
Damnit, Obama, stop making jokes about Michelle having had to “train” you to be a good husband.
Josh Levin compiled timelines to compare how FSU and Tallahassee police have dragged out the investigation of Jameis Winston, who allegedly raped a fellow student nearly two years ago, to how the University of Florida announced on Monday that they were suspending freshman quarterback Treon Harris for allegedly raping a student on Sunday morning.
High fives to Aziz Ansari for this no-nonsense explanation of how to be a feminist.
It's official. I'm making a new Ghostbusters & writing it with @katiedippold & yes, it will star hilarious women. That's who I'm gonna call.
— Paul Feig (@paulfeig) October 8, 2014
- Very interesting: Gay and lesbian canvassers who spoke to voters about same-sex marriage were more likely to sway their opinions because they could put a personal face on the issue; the same tactic also seems to work when women talk about having had abortions.
- A new study found that 90% of women who work in restaurants have been sexually harassed on the job.
- Even though fetal alcohol syndrome is exceedingly rare and researchers can’t agree on how much alcohol is safe during pregnancy, we’ve gone so far over-the-top in shaming women who binge drink that more and more women are asking their doctors if they need to have an abortion if they drank before realizing they were pregnant.
- How battered women can be sent to jail if their abusers kill their kids.
- Jessica Valenti on how affirmative consent isn’t going to turn all college sex into rape.
- How sexting can provide an opening to talk to teens about consent and asking for what they want.
- Mychal Denzel Smith talks about how allies are really wannabes, and that simply saying, “I’m a feminist!” or whatever doesn’t give you a free pass to still do and say sexist shit.
- MRAs don’t just hate women; they really can’t stand feminist men. Fortunately, their rhetorical skills are pretty pathetic. (Though it’s notable that in the Twitter conversation that’s ‘capped in the article, the MRA never threatens or personally attacks WYSK contributor John Marcotte, which isn’t usually the case when MRAs call out women.)
- Emma Sulkowicz’s parents wrote an open letter to Columbia University to criticize their mishandling of her rape accusation.
- On Mary Calvert’s photo-essay documenting the struggles of service members coping with the aftermath of being raped while serving in the military.
- The history of “redefining marriage.”
- A feminist Catholic discusses the growing divide between Catholic leadership and how Catholics actually live their lives.
- Do not ask a woman who gave birth four days ago if she’s started exercising yet. Like, why do we have to explain that this is wrong? Nobody’s exercise routine or lack thereof is any of your fucking business unless they ask you for advice.
- On the wildly disparate inseams between boys’ and girls’ shorts at Targets (and pretty much every other kids’ clothing store).
- More on why it’s actually pretty fucked up that Karl Lagerfeld put on a faux-feminist Chanel runway show.
- The Toast has a cool piece on Ello and how women are more likely to assume that they’re just not understanding something technical, while men will blame the tech even if they’re the ones who screwed up.
- Women whose work merits a Nobel Prize in Physics. (Better luck next year, I guess.)
- Why disability is a feminist issue.
- Justice Sotomayor, BAMF.
- The Womansplainer, or “Damn, why didn’t I think of that!”
- College Humor celebrates five unsung heroes of the Men’s Rights Movement.
- God I love Jessica Williams.