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Parenting

You aren’t fated to be a bad parent just because yours were

Not all of us have had ideal parents, and sometimes long after we’re out of their sphere of influence, the damage they’ve done remains. I certainly fall into the category of someone who still is affected by what happened in her childhood, and the damage was enough that I worried that I’d do the same […]

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Food

Nerdy Adventures in Cooking: Miss Martian Cookies

In addition to my many geeky hobbies (anime, video games, comics, etc.), I also enjoy cooking and baking. Whether or not I’m great at it is up for debate, but I definitely enjoy it. So what better way to pursue my love of cooking than by exploring new and interesting avenues therein? From that sentiment […]

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Serious Business

Being a Rape Survivor on Public Transit

[TW: Rape] What do you do when you have no choice on how you get to work? 

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Pets

Electronic Fences are the Wrong Choice for Your Dog

Today, I received an email from one of my students who was considering installing an electronic fence system in their backyard and wanted to know what I thought. I hate them.

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NaNoWriMo

Prepping for NaNoWriMo: Discipline & Doubt In Writing a Novel

Back in the heady days of NaNoWriMo 2012, I highlighted Semi-Charmed Life by Nora Zelevansky as one of the NaNo projects turned real, live novels. Nora was generous enough to share with us some thoughts on the challenges of writing and turning an idea into a full-fledged novel. You can find more from her on […]

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Op Ed

Micro-aggressions, Cat-calling, and Triggers, Oh My! A Record of Harassment

[Original publication date: May 16, 2011] (Trigger warnings:  offensive images, talk of sexual assault, sexually aggressive language) Last week, Olivia wrote about the anger around the cat-call, saying, “Sometimes I feel like I have molten lava boiling right underneath the surface of my skin. It’s been building, and waiting, and accumulating all things toxic.”

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Crossposts

Unseen, Unheard, Unvalued, Unimportant…

… and yet folks wonder why I’m angry. There are so many things I would rather be writing about today. There are so many sad things I could be writing about today. Instead of those things, I am writing this.

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Perspectives

One of Those People

My sister and I have never had a lot in common. For years I worked on our relationship, but with the help of therapy, I realized that our problems weren’t due to typical issues between siblings.

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Parenting

Three Years In

I am fortunate to have pictures of my children when they were first taken from their family, before we came together through adoption. They are not easy to look at. My son is little more than a baby. He is tiny for his age, but the expression on his face is not childish. He is […]

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Food

Ladyguide: How to Make Pot Brownies

Let’s say, hypothetically, if you live in a state where it’s not illegal to consume marijuana products, you’ve got a little bit extra in your bag, an hour or two with an oven, and a taste for something intoxicating and sweet. 

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We try it!

We Try It: Paying Off $34,000 in Credit Card Debt

Listen, when I was in my 20s, I made some really stupid decisions. Obviously.

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Parenting

It’s Not a Sprint

I realized today that my daughter doesn’t know her left hand from her right. It doesn’t matter how old she is right now; just know that she is well past the age when most children have learned this. We have tried telling her that she writes with her right hand, but this doesn’t register with […]

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Crossposts

Let’s Talk About Poverty

You may or may not have heard of Linda Walther Tirado. Her essay, “Why I make Terrible Decisions or Poverty Thoughts,” was published by various Internet outlets and gained a lot of attention. Early media pieces focused on Tirado’s piece as giving a voice to the working poor. Tirado had two GoFundMe accounts: one set […]

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Perspectives

You Are Not Alone

Editor’s note: This post discusses rape, sexual assault, and abuse. I am the sister of the girl from Steubenville. I am the sister of the girls from Maryville. I never wanted to be.

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Perspectives

Planning A Hypothetical Abortion

So there I was, my eighteen-week-old baby sitting on my knee, talking to my doctor about having a termination.