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If bad romance novels are to be believed, the hymen is a few inches inside the vagina and must be abruptly broken with a dramatic, grunting thrust. As you may suspect, however, this is not quite accurate, and by “not quite” I mean “not at all.” (NSFW – drawings of vulvas at the bottom of […]
Q: Any recommendations on good sex toys for men who’ve never really used them before? A: The first thing we can recommend is that vibrators aren’t just for vulvas anymore – in fact, even many of the ones made for lady-part stimulation can work just as well on boy-parts,
Q: I’m having some trouble with a new partner of mine not respecting my boundaries. I have told him repeatedly not to leave visible bite marks/hickeys on my neck/upper chest, but he keeps doing it. I think that part of the problem is that I enjoy being bitten hard, so when even though I’ve told […]
Our impressions of what sex is or should be like come from many sources – the media, movies, porn, our friends and peers, our religious community if we have one, health classes if we had them, and so on. As you might expect, not everything we hear from all of these places is accurate or […]
Even though we understand why New Year’s resolutions are not beneficial to or beloved by everyone, both of us really enjoy them. Resolutions can offer an opportunity to revamp parts of your life you feel need some change, or they can simply help you be more mindful of certain things. And one aspect of life […]
For this week’s column, we dug into our nightstand drawer in order to review all of the tasty (and not-so-tasty) sex accessories we’ve collected. Flavored condoms and dental dams can make practicing safer sex (or at least oral sex and rimming) a little more fun and fruity, and warming flavored massage oil can really hit […]
As you saw in our last post, there is no shortage of advice on how to be good, better, the best at sex. Magazines like Cosmopolitan, Glamour, and Men’s Health are full of suggestions on how to surprise, delight, seduce, and impress your partner, and there is no shortage of sex advice books as well. […]
In the absence of any new questions to answer, we present to you a social/sexual experiment. We seek to explore as many facets of human sexuality as possible, even those that any reasonable person would avoid at all costs. That’s right: we’re going to actually follow the sex and dating advice of Cosmopolitan and Men’s […]
Q: I’m looking for women-friendly porn and erotica (ESPECIALLY erotica) sites. Dirty stories are my favorite thing in the whole wide world, but the only sites I know of are literotica (meh) and the Erotica Readers and Writers Association, which hardly updates and is less RAWR than I’m looking for most of the time.
Q: What do you do when you find yourself dependent on a particular kink to get turned on or get off? I’m into kink-light (hair pulling, some domination and restraint, but nothing too major) and I am totally ok with all this. But, it’s not what I want all of our sex to be, and […]
Q: My husband has expressed interest in using cock rings. I’m down for it too. What should we know about using them safely before we start? I don’t want to constrict him so much that his dick falls off. Loss of dick would indeed put a damper on things. First, good for you and your […]
We want to preface our response to this question with the reminder that neither of us are medical professionals of any kind. All of our ideas should be taken as suggestions of things to read more about on your own and/or to bring up to your doctor rather than actual diagnoses.
Q: How do I get my partner to hit me harder? I like being slapped during sex, and he will oblige but I think it weirds him out, and he does it very tentatively. I know I should just talk to him, but it’s really really hard for me to talk about when I’m not […]
Welcome to The Frisky Feminist, Persephone Magazine’s resident sexpert couple’s advice column answering all your sexuality related questions with honesty, enthusiasm and humor. Content below the cut may be considered NSFW, so proceed at your own risk. ~ed Q: What is the best way to broach pegging with a new guy? Do you wait for […]