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Bodies

Constant Comments

I am not clear how this came about, but about”¦it certainly came. There seems to be an unspoken rule that it is perfectly okay for people to comment on other people’s bodies. And I am not referring just to the behind the back conspiratorial comments frequently accompanied by a wink-wink, nudge-nudge to a nearby co-commenter. […]

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Life

Table Manners

I remember the first time I realized I wasn’t the only person who was bothered by the sounds people make when they’re chewing–especially when they’re chewing loudly, and especially when they’re chewing with their mouths open.  I was talking to a friend of mine, and although I don’t remember how the subject came up, I […]

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Life

When the Private Bathroom Goes Public

Like many New York City residents, my fiancé and I have a rather unique living situation. I won’t go into the details, but essentially they all boil down to one very important fact: in theory, we share a bathroom with another person. In practice, however, it sometimes seems like we might be sharing a bathroom […]

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Ladyguides

Retail Ladyguide: How to Complain Without Being a Jerk

There are about a zillion articles out there that try to tell you, the consumer, how to effectively complain when you’re dissatisfied with something in a retail or service context. I’m someone who has been the drone on the other side of the counter for many, many years, and I’ve read many of those articles […]

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Perspectives

The “Don’t Be That Guy” Guide to World Travel

I am a firm believer that an international experience is one of the best educations you can get. To leave your culture and your comfort zone and delve into new perceptions, flavors, smells and ideas can be the quickest way to realize both one’s humility and humanity.

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Ladyguides

Internet Smarts: Mind Your Manners Online

One of the very first posts here at Persephone Magazine was on Internet Smarts. There Selena reminded the world to use a screen name, don’t pick fights and don’t post drunk. I’d like to add to that list, with the theme of Using Good Manners Online:

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Life

Do Manners Matter?

Recently, a college professor of mine, on whom I’ve had an intellectual crush for over a decade, posted a blog about young people and their lack of manners. It wasn’t the usual lament about “kids today;” rather it examined the role that adults have in instilling those manners. It got me thinking about etiquette in […]

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Life

Notice to Chivalrous Men

OK, you’re not being helpful when you hold a door open for me like this: